
The difference between hard and soft pain in BDSM: what it opens up, how to explore it safely, and why nothing is wrong with you.

Glossary
The substance that gets all the credit for the high, and that showed nothing at all in the research on BDSM.
Endorphin (Dutch: endorfine) is a natural opioid the body releases under pain and stress, and that adjusts pain perception, mood and reward. Endorphins arise from the precursor protein POMC, which is made mostly in the anterior lobe of the pituitary. Beta-endorphin is the best-known form. In BDSM explanations endorphin gets the credit for the high during a scene; that link has never been shown.
| Dutch term | Endorfine, only spelled differently |
| What it is | a natural opioid peptide |
| Where it comes from | from POMC, mostly in the anterior lobe of the pituitary |
| What it does | adjust pain perception, mood and reward pathways |
| Measured during BDSM | yes, as beta-endorphin in blood; in the outcomes only cortisol and endocannabinoids came back |
| Main misconception | that endorphin explains the high during the scene and the dip afterward |
In the explanation you run into everywhere: everything. In the measurements: far less.
The familiar story goes like this. During an intense scene the body floods with endorphin and adrenaline, that gives the floating high people call subspace, and when those substances drain away afterward the crash follows. You find that explanation on hundreds of pages, including the nineteen blog articles on this site where the word appears.
Sprott and Randall looked into it in Journal of Positive Sexuality and conclude that no research exists that has ever tested that physiological explanation of the dip right after a scene. The story gets copied from one to the next. That does not make it untrue, but it does make it unproven, and that is something else.
Endorphin is a peptide that acts on the same receptors as morphine, and that your body makes itself. The StatPearls description puts it briefly: endorphins arise from POMC, a prohormone made mostly in the anterior lobe of the pituitary, and they adjust pain perception, mood and reward pathways. Beta-endorphin is the longest and physiologically most important form of them.
Now the problem the familiar story runs aground on. What you measure in blood does not have to reach your head. Siebers, Biedermann and Fuss argue in The Neuroscientist that endorphin in the bloodstream has no large effect on the brain, because its water-loving build keeps it from crossing the blood-brain barrier. Endocannabinoids are fat-loving, do get through, and are therefore the better candidate.
The same research group tested that in people. In a double-blind, randomized study with 63 participants they blocked the opioid receptors with naltrexone and had the participants run for 45 minutes. The euphoria came anyway, the anxiety dropped anyway, and the share of participants who reported a runner’s high was comparable in the naltrexone group and the placebo group. Their conclusion: in humans that high does not depend on opioid signaling.
One research group has asked exactly this question. Wuyts and colleagues tested 35 BDSM couples during a real interaction, alongside 27 people without BDSM interest in an ordinary social conversation, and tracked cortisol, beta-endorphin and the endocannabinoids 2-AG and anandamide.
So beta-endorphin was in there. In the reported outcomes it does not come back: those show that the submissive participants displayed a rise in cortisol and in endocannabinoids, and that the dominant participants displayed only more endocannabinoids when power play was involved. The review article the same group wrote two years later, across ten studies together, arrives at the same list: cortisol points to the stress system, endocannabinoids to the pleasure and reward system.
What does it give you?
None of this proves that endorphin plays no role. Blood values say little about what happens in the brain, the BDSM study was a pilot with Flemish participants, and the authors themselves note that the scale is limited.
“The high during a scene is an endorphin rush.” Never shown. In the only study that included beta-endorphin during BDSM, only cortisol and endocannabinoids come back in the outcomes.
“Endorphin explains the dip afterward.” Sprott and Randall point out that the described hormone changes play out in minutes and not in days. Their explanation for the late crash is at drop.
“What holds for runners holds here too.” True, but differently than people think: in runners the high actually stayed intact while the opioids were blocked.
“Endorphin and adrenaline are two sides of the same reaction.” They are different substances with their own route. What has been measured about that other one is at adrenaline.
I am Victor, a gigolo, twenty-five years in BDSM and trained as a psychotherapist. I used the word endorphin myself for years to explain what was happening. I do not do that anymore.
It makes people calmer, not more restless. “Your stress hormone has risen and has to come back down, and time and company help with that” lands better than a story about substances no one can check.
The practice matches the measurements just fine, by the way. Receiving costs more than it looks, and the bill comes not during but after. On a bdsm date I therefore plan that time afterward just as deliberately as the scene itself.
On this site you will find what has been measured about that other substance at adrenaline, the crash itself at drop, and the care around it at aftercare.
Off this site, the review article by Wuyts and Morrens is the best starting point: it brings together all ten studies that have ever measured a biomarker in BDSM, and is honest about how thin that stack still is.
Frequently asked questions
Endorphin is a natural opioid the body releases under pain and stress, and that adjusts pain perception, mood and reward pathways. Endorphins arise from the prohormone POMC, which is made mostly in the anterior lobe of the pituitary. Beta-endorphin is the longest and physiologically most important form.
That has never been shown. In 35 BDSM couples Wuyts and colleagues tracked beta-endorphin among other things, but their outcomes show only a rise in cortisol and in endocannabinoids. Endorphin in the bloodstream also does not cross the blood-brain barrier, so a measurement in blood says little about what you feel.
No, and for the late dip it is even untenable. Sprott and Randall point out that the described hormone changes play out in minutes and not in days, and that no research has ever tested that physiological explanation. They propose reading the later crash as a loss reaction; see drop.
Cortisol and endocannabinoids. In their review of ten studies Wuyts and Morrens brought together that cortisol changes in submissives, which points to the stress system, and that endocannabinoids change, which points to the pleasure and reward system. In dominants that measurable yield hung on power play and not on pain.
The high exists, the explanation probably does not. In 63 participants Siebers and colleagues blocked the opioid receptors with naltrexone and had them run for 45 minutes; the euphoria and the drop in anxiety kept occurring anyway. Their conclusion is that in humans the runner’s high does not depend on opioid signaling.
To Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and a background as a psychotherapist. He would rather explain what has been measured than what gets claimed, and his aftercare runs on through the week after a date. You can ask him a question with no obligation through the contact form or first chat for free; you do not have to be a client.
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