Preparing for a gigolo date

Preparing for a gigolo date is as simple or as elaborate as you want it to be. You’re in charge of all of it: your outfit, where we meet, getting in the mood, and a safety call so you feel secure. Below I walk you through everything, step by step, from what to wear to how to set up that call.

The date is set. Now what?

There are still a few weeks (or months) between now and then, and that’s exactly when the anticipation kicks in. What do you wear? How do you get in the mood? What do you arrange beforehand, and how do you make sure you feel safe?

Those butterflies are part of it. You hold the reins: how elaborate or how simple you keep it is entirely up to you. Small spoiler, it’s all about enjoying yourself and embracing the adventure with open arms. Perfection isn’t the point (the best stories usually come from funny little mishaps), it’s about the magic of the moment.

Ready to turn that date into something unforgettable? Here’s everything worth thinking about, one step at a time.

Beforehand

Your limits, clear up front

Clear agreements and clear limits, up front.

Before we see each other, take a minute to fill in the consent form. You mark what you say yes to and what you don’t. A few minutes’ work, whenever it suits you.

No contract. A yes can turn into a no along the way, and the other way around, no explanation needed.

Where we meet

You’ve got several options for the location of our date. I can come to your place, or you can rent a spot that ticks all your boxes. Think a comfortable hotel, or rooms you can rent by the hour through platforms like SecretRooms and GetADayRoom. For a BDSM experience you could even pick a specially equipped BDSM room (though I always bring enough with me to transform any room). Want an adventure outdoors? How about a romantic date in the woods, or a balmy evening on the beach?

Want to treat yourself to a little extra luxury? Consider a private spa, or another exclusive location for an added touch of indulgence.

A good date starts with a setting where you feel at ease. A place where we can move freely without being disturbed. Nothing’s as annoying as a shrieking kid looking for its mom at the wrong moment.

Do book the hotel in your own name, though. I’d happily arrange it for you, but the law won’t let me.

Let’s create the perfect setting for an unforgettable experience together.

Hotel

If you check in at a hotel, the easiest thing is to simply tell the desk you’re on your own. Once you’re in your room, text me your room number and I’ll come up. If the elevator only works with a keycard, just come and collect me from the lobby.

More on what you do and don’t need to say: how to handle checking in.

The safety call

Your safety is priority number one. Let’s make a plan that helps you feel extra safe. Arrange with a friend that you’ll text her, say 30 or 60 minutes after our date starts, to let her know everything’s fine. And if she doesn’t hear from you (which of course won’t happen, because we’ll be having a great time), she can take action and, if needed, call the police with the address where you are.

On the day itself

Getting in the mood

Start your day without too much rush. An overloaded schedule tends to cause stress, and we don’t want that. Give yourself room to get ready and make sure you arrive on time and relaxed.

Take plenty of time, and yes, I mean for everything. Start by allowing enough time for your preparation. When we’re together, it’s lovely to slow the pace right down. Quick sex might look exciting from the outside, but in the moment between us it’s far more intense and satisfying when we take our time. Slowness makes for a deeper connection and enriches our pleasure.

And afterward, give yourself some time to enjoy the afterglow. Maybe with a cup of tea or a good book. It’s nice to let it all settle and take that moment for yourself. That way you can savor it and reflect on our time together.

Your preparation can be as simple or as elaborate as you like. The day itself should feel like a party you’re throwing for yourself: think about everything you want to experience. No stress, just enjoy that exciting build-up!

Let’s make it something special together, without rushing.

What you wear

Wear something you feel absolutely amazing in! Pick something that makes you feel happy and attractive at once. You might dress up a little more than usual for the occasion, but don’t sacrifice comfort for style. Personally, I light right up at a chic, spicy outfit: think beautiful black stockings, elegant high heels, a playful skirt and a charming neckline.

For anyone who loves a touch of mystery and playfulness, a fun little uniform is a fantastic option too! It brings an element of fun and fantasy into our time together and can add that special spark. So feel free to experiment with something that makes your heart beat faster and makes you feel irresistible. Confidence is the best outfit and a smile is the perfect accessory!

Choose an outfit you shine in, and put on your favorite lipstick or lip balm.

But remember: the choice is entirely yours. What matters most is that you stay yourself and shine.

Hygiene

Before we meet, a shower or a bath is definitely a good idea. It’s a lovely way to relax and freshen up, and it helps you get into the right mindset for our date. And hey, if the opportunity comes up, I’d happily hop in the bath with you! Bathing together brings so much more fun and, well, you can imagine the rest.

Whether you go for a long, hot shower, a bubble bath with your favorite scent, or that special perfume you know works wonders, it’s all about taking care of yourself until you feel your very best. And don’t forget that smile. It counts as part of your personal grooming too!

About pubic hair, I get that question a lot: make sure everything down there is neatly tidied or trimmed. Personally I prefer completely shaved or waxed. It gives a fresh, clean feeling and heightens sensitivity, if you catch my drift.

Getting the location ready

Make sure you’re there well ahead of time. That way you can “land” yourself and feel at ease in the space. A clean, tidy environment at a pleasant temperature is crucial. Maybe even a touch warmer than you’d usually set it, since our clothes probably won’t be staying on. Nothing’s as unpleasant as shivering from the cold in a moment of intimacy, right? In summer it’s the exact opposite: go ahead and switch the AC on early. Too warm doesn’t play nicely either.

To lift the mood further, you can fill the space with a nice scent, light some candles and arrange some dimmed light. If the situation allows, some sultry music in the background can work wonders. Anything that helps you feel good and get in the mood is fair game.

If it’s a hotel room, try to get into the room ahead of time. That gives you the chance to acclimatize, take in the vibe of the room and feel completely comfortable with the setting. That way you’re all set for an unforgettable experience.

Who takes care of what

What you take care of

To make our special time together as perfect as it can be, I’ve put together a handy checklist for you. These are things you can arrange to make our meeting even better, things that’ll make you happy and excited:

• Snacks. Chocolate, my hero in so many moments. Bring something nice to nibble on. Chocolate is a party for your taste buds and perfect for that little energy boost. A few nuts do the job just as well, and if you’d rather have something healthy, some carrots or cucumber are fine too. Whatever you fancy.
• Drinks. Whether you’re at home or in a hotel, have something nice to drink. Fruit juices for that sugar kick during our physical escapades are a good idea. Personally I like iced tea and ginger beer. If you’d rather have a glass of wine, by all means go for it. I’ll happily join you for one, though I’ll keep it at that single glass.
• Mood-setters. There’s nothing more romantic than candles, mood lighting, calm music and a nice-smelling home. We’re on a date, so we make the setting part of the magic. A relaxed atmosphere makes for relaxed minds, and that leads to, well, leave that to me.
• Cleanliness. And by that I mean your surroundings and yourself. Make sure your home (or hotel room) is neat and clean, with a freshly made bed. Funny how a tidy space makes for a carefree mind, isn’t it?
• Meals. If we have a longer date, say 4 hours or more, eating together is really nice. Sometimes I travel from far, and luckily the evening is long. It’s up to you how we do this: dinner out at a quiet restaurant where we don’t have to give up intimacy, or something simple at home or in the room, room-service style. Food-wise I eat anything and I love good food, though I increasingly go for vegetarian or fish. That just sits a bit lighter. Eating together is a lovely way to connect, whether at the start or the end of our time together.

What I take care of

Time for me to share what I’ll take care of. A little peek into my “date survival kit,” let’s say. Preparation is everything, so here’s how I plan to make our adventure run even smoother:

• Condoms. This guy doesn’t show up without his armor. I always carry my own supply, mainly because I’m, let’s say, a bit more challenging in size than the average bear.
• Lube. A golden rule I’ve learned: everything’s better with lube. You can’t always count on mother nature to keep every condition perfect, which is why I’m always well prepared.
• Grooming. I make sure I’m clean, washed and shaved from head to toe, ready to meet you. It matters to me to look my best for our date, presentable and fresh.
• Tools. Oh, I always have a few tricks up my sleeve: vibrators, BDSM toys, ropes for shibari, and bits for anal exploration. Feel free to bring your favorite toy, but you don’t have to. I’ll take care of the right accessories and supplies.

With these preparations on my side, we can make our time together safe and comfortable, and exciting and memorable. See you soon!

What happens next

And if you want a preview of how the day itself will go, that’s covered in the meeting.

Anything still unclear before the day? Send me a message on WhatsApp, or email me if you’d rather ask in writing first.