What you always wanted to ask a gigolo
Questions
Unsure about something, or just want to understand it a little better? Below I answer the questions I get asked most. Yours not here? Send me a quick message.
Before you book
What does a date look like from start to finish?
Calmer than you’re picturing right now: a drink, a conversation, and only then anything more. When you say so. At the end we wind down together instead of a sudden goodbye.
The full order is on Booking.
Is there a short introduction or a trial date?
Not a paid trial date; two hours stays the minimum. A phone call, a video call or a coffee date is fine, costs nothing and commits you to nothing.
More on Coffee Date.
Can I book without Snapchat or Instagram?
Yes, by email or through the contact form. No account needed, nothing in an app your partner uses too.
Every way to get in touch is on Contact.
Do you come to my region too?
All of the Netherlands, Belgium and Germany. The travel cost depends on your province, and you know the amount before you say yes.
The full list is on Regions.
What do other women say about you?
You’ll read that best in their own words, unedited. What comes back most often isn’t the sex but the calm.
It’s all on Reviews.
Are you that gigolo with a psychology background?
Yes: a gigolo with a background as a psychotherapist and more than twenty-five years in practice. You notice it most in the moments I don’t push on.
More on About me.
Money and discretion
What is the difference between an agency and booking directly?
An agency charges fifteen to thirty percent in commission on top of the rate, and often you don’t find out who’s coming until the evening itself.
The differences sit side by side on Compare.
What if my children, friends or colleagues find out?
The odds are small, and you make them smaller yourself: paying cash leaves nothing on your statement, and I keep nothing that traces back to you.
How that works exactly is on Privacy.
Doubt and safety
Will my boundaries be respected?
Yes, and that’s not a promise but the whole setup: spoken out loud beforehand, written down, and open to change along the way. No never needs explaining.
More on Safety.
Is he pretending, or does he really find me attractive?
I don’t pretend, and the reason is simple: I can say no, and I don’t take a date I don’t want.
This one and the other doubts are on Still unsure?.
What's possible
Which acts do you do, and which don't you?
Almost everything is open to discussion, and yes, there are things I don’t do. What we agree on holds for the whole date.
You’ll find the full overview on Services.
What is a gigolo, and how is it different from an escort?
A man who offers women company and intimacy for a fee. There’s no fixed difference from an escort; it comes down to the emphasis.
You’ll find the full explanation on What is a gigolo.
Is it normal that I want to be dominated?
Yes, and it’s one of the most common fantasies out there. Often it’s exactly the women who are in charge all day.
More on BDSM date.
Is a tantra massage sexual?
In the tradition, barely; in what I offer it can be sensual, but climax isn’t the goal. The word literally means weave; the tradition has little to do with sex.
You’ll find the full answer on Tantra.
As a couple we want to try something exciting. What's possible?
More than most couples think, and a threesome is far from always where it ends up. The measure: does it make you both a little nervous?
More on For couples.
I'm still a virgin later in life. Is that strange?
No, and it’s more common than you think. There’s no age at which it becomes too late. The moment just never came, and the threshold got higher every year. That’s the whole story.
More on The first time.
Can I cuddle without it turning into sex or a relationship?
Yes, and for a lot of women that’s exactly the point. You decide where the line sits. Warmth and attention for a while, with no expectations for afterward.
More on Touch and skin hunger.
Can I book someone purely for company, without sex?
Yes, and it’s not a stripped-down date. You pay for time and attention; where that goes is up to you. Dinner together, a walk, or just talking with someone who really listens.
More on Intimate togetherness.
Can I have intimacy without dating apps or a new relationship?
Yes. No swiping, no disappointing first dates, no obligation for afterward. Just attention and closeness, at a time that suits you, with no profile and no second date you have to have an opinion about.
More on Sex after divorce.
I don't want a new relationship, just to be touched again.
That’s a real option, and you’re not the only one in it. Warmth and closeness without it having to lead anywhere.
More on Sex after divorce, which also covers the loss of a partner.
Can an overnight stay also just be sleeping side by side?
Yes. For one woman the night is about passion, for another it’s about falling asleep next to someone. What happens is up to you, and it can change along the way.
More on Erotic overnight.
Can I take you along on a trip or a weekend away?
Yes. Multi-day arrangements start at €5,000 and are limited in availability, so plan well ahead. A weekend, a city trip, or a week; I arrange travel and lodging in advance, for one price that covers everything.
More on Arrangements.
Do you also do dinner dates, galas, and other occasions?
Yes, and it’s a nice way to start: the most exciting step happens at the table, in public.
More on Dinner date.
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