As if we run into each other by chance
Spontaneous Encounter
You're at the bar. I walk in and I don't know you. What happens next depends on how it goes, and that's exactly the point.
What is a spontaneous encounter as roleplay?
A spontaneous encounter as roleplay is a scene where we act as if we don’t know each other. You’re at the bar with a glass in front of you, I walk in, and at some point we catch each other’s eye. From then on the seduction plays out however it plays out, just like it used to, back when you didn’t know yet whether someone liked you.
A lot of women lose that feeling. With an ordinary date you know in advance who’s coming, what time, and where it’s headed. Comfortable, but the nerves are gone. Here we build those nerves back in on purpose.
Why do women book this roleplay?
The reason I hear most often. They miss being courted. Not the sex, the run-up to it. The look from across the room. The moment someone comes to stand beside you and you don’t know yet whether it’s chance.
Another reason is that it’s easier to be someone you’re not. As a stranger you can be bolder, quieter, younger, whatever you want. Nobody knows you here, not even me.
How does the seduction play out?
The seduction runs in five steps, from choosing a spot together to the way out that’s always there.
1. We choose a spot together. A hotel bar works best. Enough people to blend in, quiet enough to hear each other.
2. We set the boundaries. Where it ends and what definitely won’t happen. Once, beforehand, and after that we don’t bring it up again.
3. I don’t know who you are. You can make up a name and a job if you like. If you’d rather not, that’s fine too.
4. It goes however it goes. I have no script. Sometimes we talk for forty-five minutes before anyone touches anything. Sometimes it’s faster.
5. There’s always a way out. If it doesn’t feel right, you just say so out loud and we’re both ourselves again. No fuss, no explaining.
What does an evening like this feel like?
You’re at the bar with a glass of white wine. Jazz in the background, the kind of light everyone looks good in. You let your eyes drift across the room and there’s someone on the other side.
He smiles. Walks your way with his glass, slowly enough that you see him coming. “May I?” You nod.
The conversation flows more easily than you expected. He tells you something, you tell him something back that maybe isn’t entirely true, and that’s allowed. His fingers brush your hand as he sets his glass down. Coincidence, probably.
An hour later he suggests sitting somewhere quieter. It’s cold outside and you walk closer to him than you need to. In the elevator neither of you says a thing.
Who is this for?
For women who love the build-up. Who find it exciting not to know how something ends, even though they arranged it themselves. And for anyone who just wants to feel it again, being courted.
Would you rather just meet quietly, without a role, take a look at the coffee date. If you’re after arranging something quickly instead of a roleplay, read how to book a gigolo for a spontaneous date.
Linda
I felt enormously at ease with him. The date itself (was my first meeting) flew by. Victor is wonderful to cuddle with.Read Linda's full reviewShow less
Victor is a sweet, reliable man who has no hidden agenda and keeps to his agreements. I felt enormously at ease with him. On top of that, the personal contact via WhatsApp beforehand is also really nice, so that (especially for a first meeting) you’re not immediately facing a complete stranger. After the date there’s room to WhatsApp too. The date itself (was my first meeting) flew by. Victor is wonderful to cuddle with.
Marloes
Instead it started with talking. A lot of talking. About boundaries, about what I wanted. He senses exactly when he can push on and when not for a moment.Read Marloes's full reviewShow less
I was looking for something exciting and, to be honest, expected it to be intense right away. Instead it started with talking. A lot of talking. About boundaries, about what I wanted. And yes, also about where I came from. At one point I really thought: come on, let’s get started. That this was exactly what made the difference, I only realized much later.
What was less good? The back-and-forth planning took longer for me than I liked. We had to reschedule a few times before there was an evening free for both of us. But once we were settled, everything was right. He senses exactly when he can push on and when not for a moment.
Not five stars because it was bad. Purely because I came in with the wrong expectation myself. I’d go again in a heartbeat.
Rachel
You were more tender than I could have imagined, more understanding, more caring, more genuine. I felt so seen and so heard and so cared for. You are unique and precious.Read Rachel's full reviewShow less
I didn’t know what to expect when I reached out to you, but what you gave me was more than I could ever have thought. My meeting with you was more than just a meeting. You had reached out to me beforehand, so when we met it felt as if I already knew you, and you me too.
You were more tender than I could have imagined, more understanding, more caring, more genuine. I felt I could tell you anything, ask you anything, want or need anything, and that you were there for me. Lying in your arms while you stroked my hair and kissed my head gave me the strength to face the world again. I felt so seen and so heard and so cared for.
Even after we had met, you still reached out to ask how I was doing. Whatever I thought you could mean to me, you gave me so much more. I don’t think there’s anyone else like you. You are unique and precious.
Is spontaneous the same as unprepared?
No, and that’s the beauty of it. Because we agreed in advance where the limits are, you don’t have to think about anything that evening. You can let yourself get swept along, because the safety net is already there.
Want to try this?
Tell me where you picture it happening, and who you want to be that evening. Send a message on WhatsApp, and we’ll arrange the rest and both forget about it until the moment comes.
Frequently asked questions
Frequently asked questions about the spontaneous encounter
What is a spontaneous encounter with a gigolo?
A spontaneous encounter with a gigolo is a roleplay where we act as if we don’t know each other. You’re at the bar, I walk in, and at some point we catch each other’s eye. From then on the seduction plays out however it goes, just like it used to, back when you didn’t know yet whether someone liked you.
If it has to feel spontaneous, what do we agree on beforehand?
Once, briefly, beforehand, we set the boundaries. Where it ends and what definitely won’t happen. After that we don’t bring it up again. Because that safety net is already there, you don’t have to think about anything that evening and you can let yourself get swept along.
Where do we do this?
Usually in a hotel bar. Busy enough to blend in, quiet enough to hear each other. We choose the spot together, so you feel at ease there.
Do I have to play someone else?
You can, but you don’t have to. As a stranger you can be bolder, quieter or younger, whatever you want; you can make up a name and a job if you like. If you’d rather just be yourself, that’s fine too. Nobody knows you here, not even me.
I've forgotten how to flirt. Does this even work then?
Especially then. This isn’t about the sex but about the run-up. Being courted, the look from across the room, the moment someone comes to stand beside you. A lot of women lose that feeling, and this scenario builds it back up gently. No experience needed.
What if it doesn't click that evening after all?
Then you just say so out loud, and we’re both ourselves again right away. No fuss, no explaining. That way out is always there, and it’s what makes it safe enough to give yourself over to it.
Does it always end in sex?
No. I work without a script. Sometimes we talk for forty-five minutes before anyone touches anything, sometimes it’s faster. You set the boundaries and where it ends beforehand, and beyond that it goes however it goes.