Victor, BDSM Gigolo
The kinky side of me
Victor, BDSM gigolo
Hello there! I’m Victor, but you probably already knew that. If you want to know more about me without getting into the BDSM side of things, feel free to take a look at my other page. There you’ll find my full description.
This page is meant especially for people who are curious about the BDSM options I offer. So don’t be startled if this is your first time here! But are you secretly curious after all? Then by all means take a look, as long as you promise not to be startled.
Besides the items below, there’s a whole world that matters to me and has nothing to do with BDSM. Think of cuddling, kissing, and aftercare. And there’s the strong connection too, the cozy conversations, and all those small, lovely moments.
On my regular profile you can read why I do this, what matters to me, and how I approach life. If BDSM turns out not to be entirely your thing, no worries. You can simply skip this page and read on in my “regular” description. Have fun, and who knows, see you soon!
Hey there, beautiful woman!
Yes, you! I can hear you thinking: “Does he really mean that?” Well, I mean it sincerely. Whether you’re tall, short, sweetly curvy or elegantly slim, you have something beautiful that makes you unique. Truly, in my eyes every woman is a work of art. For me it’s not about that perfect size or that ideal picture. Beauty lies in the unexpected details, the stories behind those sparkling eyes, and the magical spark when you laugh. It’s your confidence, your humor, and those little things that unmistakably make you you.
So, forget those ‘perfect Instagram pictures’ for a moment and embrace who you are. I’m here to listen to your stories, to laugh together, and to make every moment special. Because you know what? You’re already a work of art, and I can’t wait to discover and celebrate that beauty.
Nadine
My experience with Victor was fantastic! Our first play was intense and enriching for me. Finally someone with whom this part of myself is allowed to exist and with whom I can explore this part further.Read Nadine's full reviewShow less
My experience with Victor was fantastic! After years of doubting whether or not I would do anything with BDSM, I decided to take the leap, but as controlled as possible. And that’s how I eventually ended up with Victor.
I was incredibly nervous the first time, and it was so wonderful to notice that he picked up on that and gave me the space and time to settle in calmly. After that he took control, but in such a lovely way that I only wanted more of it.
Our first play was intense and enriching for me. Finally someone with whom this part of myself is allowed to exist and with whom I can explore this part further. By now we’ve played a few more times, and every time he manages to surprise me, boundaries are explored and new territory is discovered. And I’m looking forward to a next meeting!
BDSM experience
Since 1990 I’ve been deeply rooted in the BDSM world, and I’ve kept refining my craft and skill. Playing at the edges is a fascinating journey for me: think of a voyage of discovery where we reach new heights together. To me, the tools and techniques I use aren’t toys. They’re keys to a world of mutual exploration and growth. Hard limits are always respected, soft limits leave room for exploration. Safety and connection are my starting points here. With me, you get to come home to yourself, no matter how far we go.
This might sound gentle, but let’s be honest: it can get intense too. With 25 years of experience in the BDSM community, there’s little I haven’t seen or done. From sizzling BDSM sessions in swingers’ clubs to hardcore weekend trips, I’ve experienced it all. These rich experiences have given me a broad view of the diversity and dynamics within the world of BDSM.
My extensive experience and constant dedication to the craft mean I can offer a safe, respectful, and enriching experience to everyone who comes into contact with me in this community.
Learning and Development
Alongside the hands-on practice, I’ve taken countless courses to perfect my techniques. Bondage/Shibari? Check. Breath/Choke play? Check. Needles and electroplay? Absolutely.
And of course, my beloved whips and whip techniques are part of my repertoire. By always continuing to learn and broaden my knowledge, I’ve built up an expertise that safeguards your safety, discretion, reliability, and care, while we still push toward the limits.
Playing together
Ah, where to begin with such a delightful subject? Life, BDSM, and sex form a colorful trinity for me. Subtle games? Oh, I live for those! That little moment of conspiracy while no one around us notices a thing. That’s gold.
Ah, and the enchantment of a D/s interaction, it’s a delicate dance of trust, surrender, and deep connection. For me, a D/s dynamic is about creating a loving and powerful environment where both parties can flourish. It’s the ultimate symbiosis in which the Dominant and the sub complement and strengthen each other.
In my daily life, everything revolves around empowerment. I mean, I love watching people grow, whether that’s in the ‘normal’ world or in the BDSM scene. That also means humiliation isn’t my thing. Corrective taps? Yes. Yelling? Never. Yelling feels like power and loss of control, and let’s be honest, I’d rather keep control firmly in hand. Fixed rules are fun for some, but I prefer something tailor-made. Let’s discover together what works for us and which rules enrich our play.
A little example? Picture this: we’re at a quiet vanilla party and I whisper to you to take off your panties, put in a small but naughty butt plug, and then secretly slip your panties into my coat pocket. It gets even more exciting when you come up with something like that spontaneously, without my having to say a word. (Note to self: spontaneous moves are a direct highway to my heart.)
Lana
What a delightful evening it was again. How well you brought it out, that collar. It felt as if I'd fully earned it.Read Lana's full reviewShow less
What a delightful evening it was again. That snap of your fingers, pffff, it made me warm right away. That was new, and so commanding. I didn’t know how fast to get on my knees. And what a delight, that beautiful big hard cock of yours straight into my mouth. For me it’s pure indulgence. I also find it an indulgence that you give me a little cushion to sit on the floor and be allowed to suck you. Thank you. How well you brought it out, that collar. It felt as if I’d fully earned it. And it had been a long time since I was allowed to wear it. I was so happy. It really does something to me, that collar. I’m far from a good masseuse, but I do find it so incredibly nice to do. Because there’s nothing lovelier than seeing you enjoy it under my hands, turned on or not. It makes me warm inside. And even though in a moment like that you give me complete freedom, there’s actually not a single moment when I don’t feel submissive to you. On the contrary, it stirs my feeling of love. And that constant physical contact where I get to explore your whole body is so nice. Just before I came to you yesterday, I was watching a few clips about jerking off a man. Because I feel I’m not very skilled at that. I’ve always focused more on the oral. But still I was a little inspired to give that beautiful cock of yours a turn too. It gave me such pleasure to see you so turned on! And what a wonderful reaction. It’s really one of the most amazing feelings when you grab me firmly by my hair and put me in the position you want. And when you tell me to stay like that, I don’t even dare to move. During the fucking you also had a good grip on me by the collar. Mmmmmm, the way you fuck me, I get hot right away whenever I think of it. And thank you for the lovely conversation. I love hearing you talk, you say good things. And did you know you also have a beautiful voice? It’s so nice that the feeling of trust I already had in you physically, I now see confirmed mentally too.
Aftercare / Subdrop
By now I have years of experience in the BDSM world, and I’ve developed a deep understanding of the complex emotions that can arise after an intense and special session, for example the so-called subdrop.
Subdrop can show up in different ways (sometimes even days later), and I have experience with a wide range of reactions that clients can go through. My knowledge lets me offer fitting aftercare that’s specifically tuned to the individual needs of each client.
Empathy and understanding: Because I’ve experienced various forms of subdrop for years, I’m able to give my clients exactly what they need, whether that’s soothing words, physical care, or practical advice.
Proactive monitoring: I make sure I’m alert to the signs of subdrop, even when you might not be aware of them yourself yet. This proactive approach helps address any negative feelings quickly.
This aftercare isn’t limited to our time together; it continues into the week that follows.
Communication
I think it’s important to hear how you experience things; before, during, and after our date, I’m open to comments and feedback. This helps us find the right mood. I love feedback, it lets me fine-tune our date and improve my service in general.
Boundaries
Exploring your boundaries, maybe stretching them a little (with respect, always), and the use of a ‘stop’ (whatever that word may be) stays an exciting challenge for me. The way you writhe while you’re immersed in that tension. It’s pure art to me. Bondage, whips, breath-play, mind-play, teasing, and yes, punishment too. You’re always allowed to resist a little; that actually gives me room to act a bit stricter.
A woman who resists nicely, a little or a lot, that makes everything extra exciting. Literally a green light to go a bit harder, and that makes my heart cheer. Exciting, right?
Are you a brat? Well, bring it on…
Shelly
From the very first moment I had the feeling I could trust him. He is kind and tender, with exactly the right amount of strictness and steadiness.Read Shelly's full reviewShow less
The first time Victor and I met (after meeting each other in a bar) was at a café in Rotterdam. From the very first moment I had the feeling I could trust him; it probably helped that we both have a background in mental health care. During our first meeting he guided me through setting boundaries, something I of course know in theory and even teach my own clients, but which I find difficult in an intimate situation.
In short: I’m a 26-year-old trans-masculine lesbian who has experience with people who crossed my boundaries, including sexual abuse and rape. I don’t let people touch me in a sexual way (and the times it did happen I panicked) and I’ve only recently been learning to touch myself again. A year ago I started working with a mistress, and on that path he crossed my way.
From the meeting in the café I began to let my defenses down and I genuinely felt only the best intentions from him. Both of us with a background in BDSM, he grabbed my hair and closed his hand around my throat, sensations that calm my nervous system. He is kind and tender, with exactly the right amount of strictness and steadiness.
Trust
The best adventures start with a foundation of trust. Think above all open communication, openness and honesty toward yourself and toward me. That reliable foundation makes everything possible.
And then, well, then we can really get freaky and see and explore how you, from that solid base, reach new heights and your hidden desire becomes reality.
Hilde
Victor is an attentive, intelligent man with a good sense of humor. He respects his sub, her boundaries and wishes, without losing any dominance.Read Hilde's full reviewShow less
Victor is an attentive, intelligent man with a good sense of humor. His calm presence combined with his natural dominance gives you a safe feeling as a sub. He senses your mood flawlessly and, in his own unique way, knows how to create a pleasant atmosphere.
Victor always knows how to hold the balance between hard and soft. Pleasure and pain flow into each other, and he can be unpredictable in how he acts.
He respects his sub, her boundaries and wishes, without losing any dominance. He makes it possible to discover new territory and learn to enjoy it.
Love, Hilde
No spark, no fire
I only date people who make my heart beat faster; BDSM isn’t a static work of art, after all. It has to live, breathe, and make me wiggle a little with pleasure. No spark, no fire, right? I have been to play parties where a total stranger of a sub was paired with me for a BDSM game. Luckily it always clicked, and it turned into an evening full of fun and excitement, challenge and laughter.
Don’t expect me to show up at your bed in tight leather pants or latex. There’s no need to keep calling out “master” either. But if you call me “sir,” I melt like a chocolate bar in the sun (and yes, that pun was intended).
The journey
So when we set out on a voyage of discovery together, you can be sure you’re in good hands. And should you get stuck somewhere, literally or figuratively, know that you can count on me for a helping hand and a genuine smile. I look forward to taking on this exciting and safe exploration together with you.
During our date(s) I’ll be a rock in the surf, an anchor full of care and unshakable support. The strength of my dominance comes from a deep respect for your boundaries and desires, combined with an unwavering dedication to your wellbeing. Together we’ll make clear agreements and lay a safe foundation, so you can navigate with full surrender and trust through the adventures we experience together.
I believe in building a loving environment where vulnerability and strength go hand in hand. From this base we can develop specific rituals and habits that deepen and strengthen our bond. Think of daily check-ins, tailored protocols, and intimate moments of reflection and care if you like that. Every step in our journey is steeped in intention and attention, which lets us forge a deeper connection and more intense experiences.
In our D/s interaction I combine loving care with a strong, steadfast dominance. Together we’ll create a space where you feel safe and loved, while we also explore and push your boundaries. Let’s walk a path together of mutual understanding, growth, and unconditional support. A path where every step forms a new chapter in our beautiful interplay.
Jasmijn
Even so, I felt at home with him right away. You're allowed to be here, exactly as you are. I never thought I would ever experience bdsm in such a safe, loving way.Read Jasmijn's full reviewShow less
When I stepped into the world of BDSM, Victor crossed my path almost immediately. After a while of online contact, we arranged to meet, and oh, how exciting I found it, out of my comfort zone. Even so, I felt at home with him right away. He saw that I was nervous and I got to settle in first, he looked at me, sensed me and responded to that. A little feeling each other out, talking, being loving with each other because it’s so important… respect for each other and each other’s boundaries. He really takes his time for that. You’re allowed to be here, exactly as you are.
He gave me the trust to surrender myself to him completely and safely. And what a joy, that feeling of surrender and then receiving whatever it is you desire. He keeps an eye on every little sigh, every movement, even when you no longer know it yourself, he does. I never thought I would ever experience bdsm in such a safe, loving way. I recommend that everyone who wants to try this, or precisely if you’re already experienced, do it with him. His many years of experience make for exactly the right approach for you personally, but his insight into people also makes it even more personal and therefore even more special. His whole presence and tone make you feel secure, it’s good, and even when you doubt something, he listens to you, is there for you and thinks along with you.
Personally I find growth very important and I knew I had a path to walk there. Because I had always learned that the world and the people outside myself influenced my emotions and I allowed that, within bdsm I learned a very important lesson about myself: that only I could influence my inner world. Pain or discomfort usually isn’t pleasant, but mentally it meant I had to pay attention to my breathing and stamina to be able to handle a session. Stepping out of a certain comfort zone, and each time it went better and I could shift pain and a boundary, I felt proud of myself, I felt my own strength set in motion, what I was capable of. Through the sessions with him, I learned to draw this feeling out of myself. Something I now reap the fruits of, to handle other things in life better and to see them differently too. I feel much freer and a better person for myself and for those around me. I’m so glad he was able to help me with that and still does.
Apart from that, because of our dynamic I also find it incredibly hot, the challenge, the playfulness, the fun you have together, basking in the afterglow and lovely recovery in each other’s arms… switching off the world for a moment. I’d do it all another 100 times. I got so much back for it, in so many ways. Thank you for this intense and beautiful experience… a place where I can moor in my safe harbor, my coming home. Because that’s how it feels to me! It’s all worth it, of course this is a personal experience, but one that opened so many doors for me.
It’s the person and the intention put into it that creates such a unique experience, as well as your own willingness to surrender, in what you desire to receive from him. And honestly, one look from this man is enough. You’ll go to the ground, and not because he demands it of you, but because you desire it yourself. And that’s where it all begins… there aren’t many like him.
BDSM Options
Everything can be discussed, nothing is required!! When it comes to options, everything is open to discussion and I have very few no-gos
| Dominance | Absolutely, natural and calm |
| Bondage | Yes, light or firm, real hemp |
| Whips | Yes, I have a whole range, sharp and dull. Bullwhips, paddles, canes, snake whips, cats etc etc |
| Rough handling | Yes, very nice |
| Breath and Choke play | Yes, super hot and euphoric |
| Electroplay | Yes |
| Building up hard | Yes, and starting gently |
| Spanking | Yes |
| Roleplay | Yes |
| CNC | Yes |
| Nipple play | Yes, hehe… great fun |
| Praise play | Yes |
| Orgasm control | Yes, yours at least |
| Rules for behavior | Yes, whatever you’d like to agree on |
and even more BDSM options
| Candle wax | Yes |
| Needles | Yes, a stimulating subject |
| Biting | Yes, I love to bite |
| Slapping in the face | Yes, I can really enjoy that, carefully though |
| Nipple clamps | Yes, nipple play too 😉 |
| Being called sir / addressed formally | Yes, that makes me happy |
| Being called master | No, not really my thing, it sounds harsh to me |
| Hair pulling | Yes, very much, grabbing firmly and putting you on your knees |
| Pain play | Yes, soft, medium, hard |
| Chains, steel cuffs | Yes |
Hard limits, the no-gos
Everything can be discussed, nothing is required!! Only some things just aren’t for me, no judgment, it’s simply not my thing
| Illegal shit | No |
| Lasting physical or emotional harm | No |
| Anything with poop | No |
| Ageplay with e.g. diapers and coloring pages | No |
| Penetration without a condom | No |
| Drugs | No, I don’t use, but if you want to use something I have no problem with that |
The adventure
There, now you’ve had a sparkling glimpse into my world full of exciting and naughty dynamics. My motto? Laugh together, explore together, and above all, always keep talking. So, ready to find out how far we can go together?
Will you come along on the journey?
I'd love to hear from you
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