How to book a gigolo

Yes, and it costs you nothing. A message with a question commits you to nothing, and many women go back and forth for weeks before they lock anything in. You’re writing directly with me, so you get your answer from the person who’ll be at your door later. Only when you say so do we set a date. Feel free to ask first, that’s always fine.

Calmer than you’re imagining right now. We start with a drink and a conversation, just sitting and talking. Those first twenty minutes are there to let the nerves drain away. After that it goes the way you want, and sometimes it stays at talking for another hour. At the end we wind down: aftercare, landing together, no abrupt exit. Step by step it’s at The meeting.

I’d love that, actually. In the getting-to-know-you conversation you tell me what you enjoy, where your limit sits, and what absolutely isn’t needed. Nothing is strange or too much. You also put it down in the consent form, so it doesn’t hang on a single conversation. Because it’s clear in advance, during the date you don’t have to think about any of it anymore.

In seven steps, all directly with me. You send a message, we talk through what you’re looking for, you get a proposal with a date, time, duration and price, and you fill in the consent form. Say yes and the date is set. No agency, no form with mandatory fields. The whole plan is at Step-by-step plan.

Send a message with your day, duration and place, and you’ll usually hear within a few hours whether it fits. Meeting at your home is perfectly fine. You give your address only shortly beforehand, and I arrive discreetly, without a car right outside your door if you prefer. Same day works sometimes, but a few days ahead works better in practice.

We sit down and talk, with something to drink. I tell you how the evening could go, you tell me what you want and above all what you don’t, and we agree on how you stop if you want to. Nothing else happens. That half hour isn’t a formality to get through; it’s the part that makes the rest possible.

Yes, and from the fourth time on there are more relaxed rules. The price doesn’t change, but we never start from zero again: your limits are set and I know what worked last time. Between dates I stay reachable. Outside the dates it stays professional, and that’s exactly what keeps the bond safe.

Aftercare is the part afterward where we land together instead of a door slamming shut: staying close, drinking, talking, or just being quiet. That time is included in the date, so you’re not watching the clock. A day or two later a dip can still come, called subdrop. That’s normal, and you can simply text me then. More at Aftercare.

No. You share exactly as much as feels comfortable, and not a word more. I don’t need your real name, your address only shortly beforehand, and a reason why you’re booking is something you never have to give. What you do tell me, I don’t keep: there’s no client database and no file with your name in it.

You barely have to do anything. Freshen up if you like and wear something you feel good in. Shaving, lingerie or a particular outfit are never required. Turn your phone off, that’s the only real etiquette. Beyond that there’s nothing to perform: you don’t need a perfect body or a script, and no expectation is waiting for you to live up to. Everything for the date is at Preparation.

Yes, and many women do it this way. Writing it down often works better than a conversation: you can adjust it calmly and send it whenever suits you, with no one watching you blush. Three columns help: what you’d love, what’s allowed but not needed, and what’s absolutely off the table. That last one is fixed, and I won’t push against it.

The further ahead, the better, because my calendar is fairly full. Last minute works sometimes if a gap has just opened up, but don’t count on it. So run a few dates past me as soon as you can, and I’ll hold them for you with no obligation. You’ll usually hear within a few hours whether it fits.

Yes, as long as you do three things: call or video call first, choose the place and time yourself, and let someone know where you are. What goes wrong in this line of work almost always goes wrong before the date, not during. How I handle my side, agreements up front, a safeword, aftercare, and what you can run through yourself, is on Safety.

You’re renting someone’s time and attention for an agreed length, a minimum of two hours. What happens in it is up to you: talking, company, touch, sex, or a combination. You’re not buying an act but an evening with agreements around it. What can and can’t happen within those hours, we settle in advance; that’s at Services.

Your real name isn’t needed, I don’t keep your messages, and there’s no client database. If you pay by bank, your statement only says “coaching.” I never reach out on my own, and outside a date I don’t recognize you. How that works exactly is on Privacy.

With me it’s € 250 an hour with a two-hour minimum, so from € 500. Booking longer is cheaper per hour, and there are no surcharges for the weekend, the night, or coming as a couple. Travel costs depend on your province. The full overview, including what is and isn’t included, is on Pricing.

Wherever you feel most comfortable: at your home, in a hotel, or somewhere else we choose together. I come to you. If what you mainly want is a place where nobody knows you, a hotel is usually the best choice. You do book the room in your own name, though. Reserving it for you is something I don’t do, as a fixed rule. Thinking along about which hotel is easy to walk into, I’m glad to do.

No. I don’t receive anyone at my home. That’s a fixed choice of mine. We meet at your place, in a hotel or somewhere else you choose. That way you’re somewhere you feel at ease, and someone you trust can know where you are.

Yes, and it’s more discreet than most people think. You book a day room from eleven to five, say, and you check in at the moment hotels are full of business traffic and nobody looks twice. For many women daytime fits better too: no evening away that you have to explain. Some hotels charge less for it than for a night.

Yes. A restaurant, a walk, a day away, a holiday cottage, a hotel in another city: it’s all possible, as long as it’s safe and discreet. Some women book a day with no bedroom at all. What doesn’t work is a place where people can recognize you, unless we agree on a cover story for it beforehand.

In principle any day, from early morning to deep in the night, weekdays and weekends. For the evening, the night and the weekend I charge no surcharge, and those are also the busiest times, so popular evenings are sometimes gone weeks ahead. On weekday daytimes, Monday to Thursday, the rate is higher, because I have to cancel other commitments for it, and room is limited. For some women a morning is actually the calmest, when nobody’s home, so tell me what you’re after and I’ll see what’s possible.

If you’re later, that comes off the agreed time, but I’m not counting with a stopwatch in hand. Extending on the spot is usually possible, at the hourly rate. Rescheduling is fine; let me know as early as you can, and any deposit simply moves with it. Only with a last-minute cancellation can I not always undo costs already made.

No. I’m coming for you, not for your décor, and I’m not looking around to judge. The only handy things: something to drink, a spot where you can sit calmly, and your phone off. If there are pets, just mention it beforehand, more for the planning than anything else.

Not much. Your ID for check-in, something to sleep in if you stay, and beyond that whatever you like. I bring condoms. A small bag stands out less than a suitcase, and if you book yourself, you can check in online and skip the front desk entirely.

No, none of that. Shaving, waxing, lingerie: not one of the three is required, and I have no preference you’d have to follow. Do what feels good on your own body. If you do want something specific, for example that I dress a certain way, feel free to say so.

From 18, with no upper limit. Being of age is the only hard requirement; too old doesn’t exist. Women from their early twenties to well into their sixties book me. Desire doesn’t wear out with the years, at most it goes underground. If you look young, I might ask you to show your ID for a second, just to check you really are eighteen. I never make a copy. And if you don’t look young at all, I sometimes still ask, purely to flatter your ego.

Yes, of course. Tell me beforehand what you need or what we should take into account, and I’ll make sure the meeting goes comfortably and entirely at your pace. Longing for touch and to be seen knows no exceptions; that your body works or moves differently changes nothing about that.

Yes. Pregnancy, menstruation or something medical doesn’t have to stand in the way of a date. Tell me beforehand what’s going on and what you want to take into account, and I’ll adjust the meeting to it. None of this is embarrassing or too much, and you decide at every moment what does and doesn’t feel good.

Yes. If you have an allergy or you’re sensitive to scents, let me know beforehand, and I’ll come without perfume. Allergies to certain fabrics or materials are easy to accommodate too. Better that you say it in advance than that it bothers you in the moment itself.

Yes, it’s your evening. A glass of wine to take the edge off, or a cigarette, is part of it if that’s what you like. I drink in moderation at most and stay clear-headed, so I’m here for you with my full attention. I don’t smoke myself, but light one up if you want to. Feel free.

Yes, on one condition: she knows about it and wants it herself. Arranging it as a surprise is fine, but the first time I always have a quick word with her too. Not because I distrust your intentions, but because I want to be sure she’s taking part of her own free will. Easiest is a group message, so we speak for just a moment and the date can otherwise stay a complete surprise. If you only want to leave the timing open, buy a gift voucher.

Yes, but only to understand where your wishes lie, so the date suits you. You never have to answer; what you’d rather keep to yourself, you keep to yourself. I note nothing and keep nothing. Mystery is allowed, and it doesn’t make the evening any less good.

Certainly. A message afterward to hear how you’re doing is part of the aftercare and simply included. Ongoing contact or sexting in between is possible too, and I’m glad to be open to it if you enjoy that. We tune together what feels good, so it’s right for both of us.

My plan has seven steps, but for setting up the date three of them count: a message with what you’re looking for, a conversation or video call to see if there’s a click, and only then a proposal with a date. That order matters, because that first contact is what you go on. In that first message, above all tell me what you don’t want; it says more than a wish list. I don’t need your real name. The whole plan is at Step-by-step plan.