Consent

Consent with a gigolo isn’t a box you tick once. It’s the whole point, from the first message you send to the moment you close the door behind me. You say what you want and what you don’t, I read it myself, and a yes can become a no at any time. One word from you is enough.

It doesn’t start in bed

A date doesn’t start in bed. It starts long before that, with the first message you sit typing late at night and delete three times before you send it. Then in how I write back, and in what you dare to say next.

So we get to know each other first. In the chat, in your own time, before anything is at stake. I want to know what you like and what you enjoy when no one is watching. And just as much what you don’t.

About what you want, and just as openly about what you really don’t. Not to turn it into a contract. Just to clear your head, so your body can follow.

Getting in tune takes the two of us

Saying that out loud beforehand has a name: attunement. And there’s only one way to do it, you and me, directly. I read your messages myself and I write back myself. What you tell me reaches me and no one else.

That isn’t a given. With me there’s no middleman, so when I’m at your door at eight, I already know everything. Nothing to repeat, no summary in the hallway to someone who still has to get to know you.

Clarity up front means we don’t have to sort anything out during the date itself. Adjusting is always fine, that’s part of it. The most important conversation has already happened, and that’s exactly why a date goes so well.

So before we arrange anything, we talk. Texting, a video call, short or long, that’s up to you.

So why fill in a form at all?

Because a conversation jumps around and a list doesn’t. A chat is a living thing. We follow wherever it leads, and things stay unspoken, not because they’re secret, but because it got warm and easy and we ended up talking about everything except that. The form runs through all of it once.

And it stays put. What we talked about in the chat is in my head. What you fill in I can read back before I head out, so you don’t have to think about it yourself that evening.

What you fill in on the form

You mark what you say yes and no to, and what your wishes are. That tells me what to keep in mind. A “maybe” is welcome too.

You stay in control, always

What you fill in is not a promise. A yes can become a no during the date, without a word of explanation. One word from you is enough.

Want to talk it through before you fill anything in? Send me a message on WhatsApp.