Getting to know Victor
About Victor: a gigolo with a background as a psychotherapist
I'm Victor. This is the short version of the man you might soon meet, and of how I treat you.
Who is gigolo Victor?
I’m Victor, a gigolo for women and couples, with a background as a psychotherapist. I work alone, with no agency, in the Netherlands, Belgium and Germany. I’m in my early fifties, from Brabant originally, and I now live just north of Amsterdam.
Before I started this work, I gave mind-body trainings all over the world, from Australia to America. I hold a doctorate, spent years behind a bar and worked as a management consultant. You can still tell about the bar (a silence rarely turns awkward around me). I have 25 years of experience in the BDSM world. I speak Dutch, English and German.
What that mostly means for you: I listen well, and I usually notice something is making you nervous before you say it.
The full story, down to what I look like and what is and isn’t possible, is on who is Victor. Why women would rather book a professional than gamble on a date, you’ll read on why Victor. And the kinky side has its own place: my BDSM profile.
How do I work as a gigolo?
You always deal with me directly. No agency, no middleman: from the first message to the text the day after, I read and write everything myself. You hear my voice before you see me, and a video call is fine too.
Before we meet, we talk about what you’re looking for and where your limits are. Many women would rather put that on paper, in three columns: what you’d love, what’s allowed but not required, and what’s an absolute no. That last column is fixed. Then you get a proposal with the date, time and price, and the date only stands once you say yes. The full step-by-step plan has seven steps.
During the date you set the pace, and we agree on a safeword beforehand. After that comes aftercare: we land together instead of a door slamming shut, and a day or two later you can still just message me.
What don’t I do? Anything that leaves lasting physical or emotional harm, and anything illegal. No penetration without a condom either. Beyond that, the rule is simple: everything can be discussed, nothing is a must.
Who do I work with as a gigolo?
I work with women, and with couples where she’s the reason. The women who book me range from their early twenties to well into their sixties. They’re after company or adventure, want to finally relax completely, or long for a conversation that goes deeper than the weather.
Maybe you’re single. Or you work yourself into the ground and want one evening that’s all about you. Sometimes it’s pure curiosity: what does this actually feel like?
If you come as a couple, we agree beforehand what his role is, anywhere from watching to joining in. For special occasions I’m happy to think along and tailor things, because no two requests are the same.
If a man wants to book me for himself, I have to let him down. No judgment, it’s just not for me.
Let’s get to know each other
Curious about who I am and what I can mean for you? The first step feels nerve-racking, I know, and that’s exactly how it should be. Send me a message on WhatsApp or use the contact form if you’d rather write. No obligations, just a start.
In the media
As seen in
- De TelegraafOndanks haar huwelijk bezoekt Emma elke maand een gigolo
- &CGetrouwd met een gigolo
- &CMaud sprak af met een gigolo. Meteen dacht ik: ik wil meer
- SheSpotVrouwelijk verlangen is geen taboe, het is juist kracht
- VriendinMariska spreekt regelmatig af met een gigolo
- BrabantsMeisjeHoe ik in BDSM en dit werk terechtkwam
- Girls ThingsEen gigolo inhuren, mag dat eigenlijk wel?
- BDSMforyouWaarom huren vrouwen bijna nooit een dominante gigolo in?
Listen and read
Curious how I sound?
You probably want to know how someone sounds before you meet. Fair enough. Hear how I talk about intimacy and touch, no rush, exactly the way a date with me goes.
Rather read what others have written about this work? That works just as well.