What is the difference between a gigolo and a male prostitute?

There is no fixed difference; it lives in the emphasis and in what someone calls himself. “Male prostitute” points mostly at the sex itself. “Gigolo” is just as much about time, company and a conversation, with sex as one part rather than the product. In law and in social services, both are called sex work.

What does a male escort do?

A male escort offers company: coming along to a dinner, a party, a gala or a trip, and the conversation that goes with it. Sex can be part of it, but it isn’t front and center in how it’s presented. So the difference from a gigolo is mostly where the emphasis sits, not what’s allowed.

How do I choose between a male escort and a gigolo?

By looking at what you want instead of at the label. If you mainly want company for something you’d rather not go to alone, search for escort. If it’s about intimacy and time together, you’ll land on gigolo. With me you don’t have to choose: both are possible, and you can still adjust it during the date.

What kind of people hire a gigolo?

Women, roughly from their early twenties into their sixties, from every corner of the country. Many after a divorce or the loss of a partner, many married women for whom nothing has happened at home in years, and couples where it was usually her idea. It runs from highly successful businesswomen and public figures to women on welfare.

What Is a Gigolo?

A gigolo is a man who offers women companionship and intimacy for pay. The word comes from French and, around 1901, already meant “paid lover or dance partner.” In practice, gigolo, male escort, and sex worker blur together: there is no fixed distinction, only a difference in emphasis and in what someone calls himself.

Where the word comes from

According to the Etymologiebank, gigolo was borrowed from French, probably from gigue: a dance, or a fiddle. Over fifty years it shifted there from “lover” (1850) to “elegant young man with dubious sources of income” (1894) to “paid lover or dance partner” (1901). In Dutch it first shows up in 1919, and back then it still meant simply a fashionable gentleman.

So the dance floor is in it from the start. A man you hire for the evening, not for the act.

Gigolo, escort, or sex worker

There is no authority that keeps these words apart. What you see in practice:

Male escort puts the emphasis on company: a dinner, a party, a trip. Sex is possible, but it is not front and center in how he presents himself.
Gigolo puts the emphasis on intimacy with women, usually with sex included, and almost always with time around it.
Sex worker is the neutral, formal term for the whole field, and it is the one you meet in law and in social services.

What someone calls himself mostly tells you how he works. So don’t go by the label. Ask what happens in those hours, and how much time you get.

What a gigolo does

The honest answer is that it varies from person to person, and that it is less spectacular than films suggest. With me, a date runs at least two hours, and most of that is not sex. It is talking and touch, and working out what you actually want, which often turns out to be something other than what you walked in with.

Women book for all kinds of reasons: curiosity, a fantasy that doesn’t fit at home, years without touch, a relationship running on autopilot, or simply an evening where it is about her for once. Couples book too.

Three misconceptions

“That’s for lonely women.” The women who book me are rarely lonely. They have work, friends, often a partner. What they miss is something more specific than company.

“A gigolo is illegal.” Paid sex between adults is allowed in the Netherlands. What is forbidden is coercion, and that is exactly why a good gigolo keeps asking rather than pushing ahead.

“You have to look good to dare.” No one here is ever judged on her body, and that is not a nicety. It is the core of the work.

What this means for you

If you are reading this because you are considering a booking, the real question is not what a gigolo is, but what you are looking for. An evening of company, a specific fantasy, or being touched again without it having to lead anywhere. That decides who you end up with, and whether that is me.

You’ll find what I do and what I don’t under Services.

What is the difference between a gigolo and a male prostitute?
There is no fixed difference; it lives in the emphasis and in what someone calls himself. “Male prostitute” points mostly at the sex itself. “Gigolo” is just as much about time, company and a conversation, with sex as one part rather than the product. In law and in social services, both are called sex work.
What does a male escort do?
A male escort offers company: coming along to a dinner, a party, a gala or a trip, and the conversation that goes with it. Sex can be part of it, but it isn’t front and center in how it’s presented. So the difference from a gigolo is mostly where the emphasis sits, not what’s allowed.
How do I choose between a male escort and a gigolo?
By looking at what you want instead of at the label. If you mainly want company for something you’d rather not go to alone, search for escort. If it’s about intimacy and time together, you’ll land on gigolo. With me you don’t have to choose: both are possible, and you can still adjust it during the date.
What kind of people hire a gigolo?
Women, roughly from their early twenties into their sixties, from every corner of the country. Many after a divorce or the loss of a partner, many married women for whom nothing has happened at home in years, and couples where it was usually her idea. It runs from highly successful businesswomen and public figures to women on welfare.