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Bruising (in Dutch blauwe plekken, medically a contusion or hematoma) is the scene name for bruises as a wanted result of impact play. On checklists it sits apart from the hitting itself. The act isn’t the point. What’s still visible days later is.
| English term | bruising; a single mark is a bruise or contusion. See the encyclopedia entry. |
| What it is | blood from broken capillaries pooling under the skin |
| Why it’s listed separately | because the marks stay visible, also outside the bedroom |
| How long | the color is usually gone after about two weeks |
| Where to stay away from | the tailbone and the hip bones |
A bruise is, per the encyclopedia, a form of hematoma in tissue, usually caused when capillaries are damaged by a blow and blood is released locally. Thuisarts.nl puts it more briefly: a blood vessel in your skin has broken, and that’s how blood got into your skin.
The colors come from the breakdown of hemoglobin: red and blue on a fresh bruise, green from biliverdin, yellow from bilirubin, and golden-brown from hemosiderin. Thuisarts.nl lists the same order in Dutch: first blue, red, dark brown or black, and after a day or two the color changes. What people think they can read from that is rarely right. A systematic review by Maguire and colleagues in Archives of Disease in Childhood found that every color can show up on fresh, mid-aged and old bruises, and that estimating a bruise’s age from its color has “no scientific basis.”
On duration both sources agree. Light bruises heal almost completely within two weeks, and after about two weeks the color is usually gone.
Cool the spot as fast as you can once it forms. About fifteen minutes with an ice pack or a cold cloth is what thuisarts.nl advises, and it changes how big the bruise ends up.
Stay off the tailbone and the hip bones. That’s the recommendation that goes with spanking, and it holds here just as well, because a bruise over bone is a different kind of damage than one in fleshy tissue. Blunt objects also reach deeper than sharp ones, so they leave a bruise sooner than a welt.
When do you call a doctor? Make an appointment if the bruise hasn’t gotten smaller after two weeks or the pain hasn’t eased. Call right away if you get several bruises within 24 hours with no clear cause, if there are signs of inflammation, after a hard blow to the head, or with bruises around both eyes.
Frequently asked questions
Usually about two weeks. At first the bruise is blue, red, dark brown or black; after a day or two the color changes, through green and yellow to golden-brown, as hemoglobin breaks down. Cool it as soon as possible after it forms, about fifteen minutes with an ice pack or cold cloth.
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