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Glossary
The method where the fire creates the suction, and the only one the burns registry keeps an eye on.
Fire cupping (Dutch: identical) is the form of cupping where the vacuum is made with a flame inside the cup, just before it goes on the skin. With fire cupping the fire does not touch the skin: it burns up the oxygen in the cup, and the low pressure that this creates pulls the skin up.
| Dutch term | identical; a cupping method, not a separate practice |
| What the flame does | remove oxygen from the cup, which creates low pressure |
| Alternative | a small pump or bulb, which makes the same vacuum without fire |
| Marks | the same round spot as with dry cupping |
| Extra risk | burns, almost always from the fuel and not from the cup |
| Where it belongs | BDSM as sensation play, and beyond that cupping therapy |
By using up oxygen. The American National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health describes two ways to get low pressure in a cup: holding a flame in the cup to remove the oxygen before the cup goes on the skin, or placing a small suction device on the cup after it stands on the skin. Fire cupping is the first of those two.
Seifman and colleagues write in The Medical Journal of Australia that the cup is heated with a flammable liquid, which locally gives a low pressure of up to one atmosphere.
For the ritual and for the warmth. A heated cup feels different on placement than a cold one, and the lighting is part of building a scene. In practical terms it delivers nothing a pump cannot also do.
At the fuel, not at the cup. Seifman and colleagues went through the Burns Registry of Australia and New Zealand: of the 18,703 patients admitted there between 2009 and 2016, twenty (0.11 percent) had a cupping-related burn. All but two were flame burns, and in at least nineteen cases fuel was involved, seventeen times methylated spirits.
The severity is the point: on average 7.9 percent of the body surface, seventeen cleanings under anesthesia, eight skin grafts, nearly eleven days in the hospital. Sixteen of the twenty cases happened at home, and the trigger was banal: in the case they describe, a dish of methylated spirits spilled over an arm and caught fire.
So: never put an open dish of flammable liquid within reach of the person or the bed, and use a pump when all you want is the suction effect.
If you want the pulling sensation of cupping without fire in the room, that is simply a different cup. The page about the BDSM date shows how we agree beforehand which sensations are on the table.
Frequently asked questions
Fire cupping is the form of cupping where the vacuum is made with a flame inside the cup, just before the cup goes on the skin. The fire does not touch the skin: it uses up the oxygen in the cup, and the low pressure that this creates pulls the skin up.
The risk is in the fuel, not in the cup. Seifman and colleagues found twenty cupping-related burns among 18,703 patients in the Burns Registry of Australia and New Zealand between 2009 and 2016; all but two were flame burns, and methylated spirits was involved seventeen times. Eight of those twenty needed a skin graft.
Yes. The NCCIH names two ways to make low pressure: a flame in the cup before placement, or a small suction device on the cup after placement. The suction effect and the round spot are the same; only the fire risk falls away.
Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and a background as a psychotherapist. He works with sensation play and can explain what the pulling sensation of a cup does, with or without a flame. You can send a message with no obligation through the contact form or first chat for free.
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