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The most-used anchor point in the whole craft, and the narrowest part of your arm.
Wrist cuffs (Dutch: polsboeien) are wide cuffs that close around the wrists and make an anchor point there. They are usually leather or nylon, close with a buckle, a lock, or Velcro, and carry a D-ring. A carabiner, a chain, or just a strap goes onto that ring. Wrist cuffs restrict little on their own; their function lies in what you attach to them.
| Dutch term | polsboeien; in the trade the whole family is called bondage cuffs |
| Also known as | wrist restraints or bondage cuffs; the whole family is at restraints, the steel ratchet version at handcuffs |
| Closure | buckle, lock, or Velcro, usually with a loop you can pull the strap tighter with |
| Attachment | a D-ring with a carabiner, snap hook, or panic snap |
| What lies underneath | the carpal tunnel with the median nerve, and Guyon’s canal with the ulnar nerve and the ulnar artery |
| Main condition | ordinary wrist cuffs do not bear body weight; there is a separate product for that |
For making a point on your arm where something can attach. That is why wrist cuffs are almost always used together with something else.
The encyclopedia describes them as wide leather cuffs, often lined with soft leather or faux fur, with a D-ring that nylon strap or chain attaches to. You clip two wrist cuffs to each other, or both to a fixed point: to the bed, to a ring in the wall, to a chain on the ceiling. Where that point is decides the rest. Wrist cuffs behind your back feel completely different from wrist cuffs above your head.
The same source also says why they exist alongside steel handcuffs. A handcuff is designed to prevent escape, not to sit comfortably, and has no lining to limit nerve damage. A wrist cuff is designed the other way around.
Little room, and that is the whole point. Through your wrist runs the carpal tunnel: according to StatPearls, a narrow passage between the carpal bones and the transverse carpal ligament, through which nine flexor tendons and the median nerve have to pass. The pressure in that tunnel is normally between 2 and 10 mmHg, but the moment you bend or extend your wrist, that pressure goes up eight to ten times. On the little-finger side lies Guyon’s canal, about four centimeters long, with the ulnar nerve and the ulnar artery in it; StatPearls names repeated outside pressure there as a cause of nerve damage.
A wrist cuff changes none of that. What it does do is decide which position that wrist holds for the next twenty minutes.
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Frequently asked questions
Wrist cuffs are wide leather or nylon cuffs that close around the wrists and make an anchor point there. They close with a buckle, a lock, or Velcro and carry a D-ring that a carabiner, chain, or strap goes onto. In Dutch, wrist cuffs are called polsboeien.
Wrist cuffs are wide and lined and spread the pressure; steel handcuffs are narrow and put that same force on an edge. The encyclopedia says it plainly: a handcuff is designed to prevent escape, not to sit comfortably, and has no lining that limits nerve damage. Wrist cuffs are built for that last part, but they are not made to carry body weight.
Yes, as long as the strap sits loose enough and the wrist stays straight. Through the wrist runs the carpal tunnel with the median nerve, where the pressure is normally 2 to 10 mmHg; the moment the wrist bends or extends, that pressure goes up eight to ten times according to StatPearls. On the little-finger side lies Guyon’s canal, where repeated outside pressure can compress the ulnar nerve. Two fingers of room, and off at the first tingling.
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