
Metal cuffs and chains in BDSM: what cold steel does for control and surrender, and why safety, consent, and aftercare come first.

Glossary
The best known piece of gear of them all, with a mechanism that works only one way.
Handcuffs (Dutch: handboeien) are restraints that hold the two wrists close together, joined by a chain, a hinge or a fixed bar. Each cuff turns on a ratchet that makes opening impossible once it is closed. In BDSM both steel police cuffs and wide leather or nylon cuffs are used.
| Dutch term | handboeien; see the encyclopedia entry. |
| Two families | steel police cuffs with a ratchet, and wide bondage cuffs of leather or nylon |
| How they close | a turning arm catches in a ratchet; without a key it no longer opens |
| Double lock | a bar that blocks any further tightening, released by turning the key the other way |
| Most affected nerve | the superficial branch of the radial nerve, on the thumb side of the wrist |
| Not the same as | ankle cuffs, which go around the ankles and allow only small steps |
With a ratchet, and that knows only one direction. The encyclopedia describes the mechanism like this: each cuff has a turning arm that catches in a ratchet, so it can no longer be opened once it sits around a wrist. Tightening further is always still possible. That is exactly where it goes wrong.
The double lock exists for that reason: a bar that, once engaged, keeps the cuff from clicking any tighter. The same source names the reason right away, namely that tightening can cause nerve damage or cut off circulation, and that this tightening can just as easily happen through struggling as on purpose. You unlock it by turning the key the other way than when you open it.
Because one kind is designed to hold someone who wants to get away, and the other to hold someone who does not.
A steel arm puts all the force on a narrow edge around the wrist. Khan and colleagues went through sixteen studies with 807 participants together for Hand, and found that damage to the superficial branch of the radial nerve was by far the most reported injury: 82 percent of the hands examined. In 6 percent there was bone injury as well, three fractures of the radial styloid process and two scaphoid fractures.
That it does not always pass is clear from the prospective study by Grant and Cook in Muscle & Nerve. For 27 months they followed 41 patients with numbness, tingling or loss of strength after handcuffs that had been tightened too far. Their conclusion: injury to the superficial branch of the radial nerve can be serious and lasting.
Engage the double lock the moment the cuff goes on, not later. Put two keys in two different places in the room. Ask about the thumb side of the wrist and not about the hand as a whole, because that is where the nerve sits that gets hit most often. And with tingling, a numb feeling or a cold hand, they come off.
If you want to know how being held feels without steel coming into it, that belongs with a BDSM date. On that page you can read what we agree in advance about time and signals.
Frequently asked questions
Handcuffs are restraints that hold the two wrists close together, joined by a chain, a hinge or a fixed bar. Each cuff turns on a ratchet that makes opening without a key impossible. In BDSM both steel police cuffs and wide leather or nylon cuffs are used.
Only with the double lock engaged, because without that bar the ratchet keeps clicking tighter with every movement. In a systematic review of sixteen studies with 807 participants (Khan et al., Hand, 2023) injury to the superficial branch of the radial nerve was the most reported outcome, in 82 percent of the hands examined. Wide leather or nylon cuffs spread that pressure better.
Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and a background as a psychotherapist. Chains and steel cuffs are on his yes list, always with the double lock engaged and a key within reach. You can ask him a question with no obligation through the contact form or first chat for free.
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