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Glossary

Flyswatter

The only tool on this list that sits in the supermarket and costs less than two euros.

What is a flyswatter?

A flyswatter (Dutch: vliegenmepper) is a household object with a springy handle and a broad, flat blade, made for swatting insects. In BDSM that same object is used as a cheap impact tool for impact play. It gives a sharp, surface tap and almost no depth.

Dutch termvliegenmepper; in Suriname the thing is called a vliegenklapper
Where it belongsimpact play, at the light and sharp end of the range
What it doesstings and tingles on the skin, without the deep thud of a paddle
Why people start with itit sits in every store, costs almost nothing, and doesn’t look like a sex toy
The electric versiona different device, not an impact tool, and not made for bodies
What to watchno strikes on kidneys, spine, or face, exactly as with any other tool

Why a flyswatter works as an impact tool

Because the handle does the work and the blade weighs almost nothing.

The Algemeen Nederlands Woordenboek describes the object as a springy handle with a broad flat blade at the top. Those two properties explain the sensation. The handle bends and catapults the blade, so a small movement of your wrist runs fast at the tip while there is barely any mass behind it. Fast and light on a broad surface gives a sharp tap that stays on the skin. Heavy and slow gives a thud you feel in the tissue. On impact play that difference is worked out, along with the distinction between sharp and dull pain.

In practice this is the object people start with. Not because it works best, but because it is already in the house, costs nothing, and you do not have to carry it past a checkout where someone looks. That is the honest reason it is on this list.

The electric flyswatter is a different device

That one does not belong in this row, and not because it is too fierce.

An electric one is a racket with a metal mesh that burns an insect, and there is a risk to it that people do not see coming. In Annals of Burns and Fire Disasters Ioannidis and colleagues show that the flame of a burning insect can ignite alcohol on the skin, and that the mesh stays hot enough after use to start a fire. The manuals warn about it themselves: do not lay it on flammable surfaces and let it cool. So for use on a body, only the ordinary, non-electric swatter is suitable.

In a playroom there is disinfectant alcohol, lube, and sometimes candles. If you want to feel current, use tools that are built for it and whose strength you can control, as described on electroplay.

Where this fits on this site

I work with tools I know, and honestly a flyswatter is not one of them. What does fit is the feeling people reach for it for: light, fast, and stinging. How a sequence like that is built up and what we talk about beforehand is on the page about the BDSM date.

Sources

  • vliegenmepper. Algemeen Nederlands Woordenboek, Instituut voor de Nederlandse Taal. Provides the description of the object as a springy handle with a broad flat blade at the top, used to swat flies, mosquitoes, and other insects, plus the only synonym the dictionary lists, vliegenklapper, with the note that this form is used mainly in Suriname.
  • Electric fly swatter. Potentially harmful not only for insects?. S. Ioannidis, G.A. Spyropoulou, L. Pavlidis, D. Dionyssiou & E. Demiri, Annals of Burns and Fire Disasters 27(3), 130-131, 2014 (PMID 26170790, PMC4441306, full text read). Only initials known via Europe PMC, so no first names filled in. Provides the finding that the flame of the burning insect ignited the alcohol and she suffered second-degree burns over 15 percent of her body surface, with fifteen days of admission; and the note that the manuals for these devices instruct not to lay the metal mesh on flammable surfaces and to let it cool sufficiently.
  • Major Flame Burn Caused by Electric Fly-Swatter. P. Muangman, J.R. Scott & K. Keorochana, Journal of Burns and Wounds 6, e3, 2007 (PMID 17342199, PMC1804254). Only initials known via Europe PMC. Provides the first reported case: a two-year-old boy with burns over 25 percent of the body surface, because the still-hot mesh of the device was laid on a floor coated with flammable shoe glue.

A flyswatter is a tool for impact play, and that page has the rules that apply to every impact tool.

  • Impact play. The practice itself, with what may and may not be struck.
  • Paddle. The heavy, broad opposite: deep instead of surface.
  • Slapper. The leather instrument that sounds harder than it lands, another object that reassures beginners.
  • Plak. The Dutch school implement from the same family of flat blades.
  • Electroplay. Where you go if you want to feel current, with tools made for it.
  • Warm-up. The order in which a light object goes first.

Frequently asked questions

What people still ask about a flyswatter.

  1. What does a flyswatter do in BDSM?

    A flyswatter is used in BDSM as a light impact tool. The springy handle catapults a blade that weighs almost nothing, and that gives a sharp tap that stays on the skin instead of a thud you feel in the tissue. That makes it one of the gentlest tools for impact play.

  2. Can you use an electric flyswatter while playing?

    No. An electric flyswatter is not an impact tool but a mesh that burns insects, with no control over its strength at all. There are two published cases where the device put people in the hospital, in both cases because the spark or the hot mesh ignited something flammable. If you want to feel current, take tools that are made for it.

  3. Who can you turn to with questions about a flyswatter?

    With Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and a background as a psychotherapist. He works with other tools himself, but the question behind the flyswatter, how you start with something light without it getting awkward, is one he is happy to answer. You can ask without any obligation through the contact form or chat for free.

Blog

Articles about starting light with striking

The blog never names this object anywhere. These two are about what it is used for: how striking works when you are just starting, and why hard and soft is something other than sharp and dull.

Want to know more

Still have questions about light impact?

I am Victor. Almost everyone who starts with striking first grabs something from around the house, and the question then is usually not what you grab but how you begin. Ask away; it costs nothing and commits you to nothing.

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