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Glossary
One turn of rope that decides whether a band stays put or slips away, and that makes your tie quietly tighter than you expected.
A cinch (Japanese: kannuki) is an extra turn of rope that runs across a bundle of wraps and draws that bundle tight. It holds the wraps together, keeps them from sliding, and turns one wide band into two separate parts.
| Japanese term | Kannuki, literally the bolt of a gate. |
| What it is | a turn of rope at a right angle to the wraps |
| What it does | tightens the wraps, holds them in place, and separates them |
| Where you see it | the double-column tie, and the arm bundle behind the back |
| Biggest pitfall | it tightens after the fact, so what looked loose is suddenly snug |
A wrap is nothing more than rope that goes around a body part. Lay a few of them side by side and you have a band. That band is comfortable as long as the turns stay next to each other, and the trouble is that they won’t do that on their own.
That is where the cinch comes in. The rope studio Anatomie Studio in London describes it in their glossary as a turn that runs between two columns to stop slipping. Wraps, in that same glossary, are simply the turns that go around the body or a column. On a double-column tie you see it right away. The cinch makes two separate openings out of one loop, so the two wrists can’t slide toward each other.
The price is tension. A cinch pulls the wraps toward each other, which means the band ends up tighter than it was when you laid it. Set the wraps at the right tension, run a cinch over them, and afterward you have something snugger than you planned.
How real that is shows in the study by Khodulev and colleagues in Cureus. Of every nerve injury in their group, 81.3 percent sat in the radial nerve, the one that runs just behind the upper arm, and recovery ranged from two minutes to five months. Their recommendation is the heart of this whole concept. Use techniques that spread the pressure evenly, and keep excessive pressure off specific nerve pathways.
In practice: check for the two fingers after the cinch, not before. And never lay the cinch right where a nerve runs close under the skin, like the inside of the elbow or the outside of the upper arm. The cross turn concentrates the pressure exactly where it sits.
Rope is part of what I do. How I build a tie like this on a BDSM date, and how I check the tension and your fingers after every cinch, we talk through beforehand.
Frequently asked questions
To hold the wraps in place. Without a cinch the turns rotate along with the arm or leg and slip away. On a double-column tie the cinch makes two separate openings out of one loop, so the wrists can’t slide toward each other. The price is tension. The band ends up tighter than it was.
Two fingers should fit under the rope, and you do that check after you tighten, not before. Nerve damage sets in very fast, it builds up, and it is often permanent. So never lay the cinch where a nerve runs close under the skin, like the inside of the elbow or the outside of the upper arm.
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