Gigolo in Mönchengladbach

Border city without a border feeling

Mönchengladbach lies so close against Limburg that for many Dutch people it is more a neighboring town than abroad. From Venlo or Roermond you are there in half an hour, from Amsterdam in two and a half.

The city itself is not the prettiest in Germany and people here know that too. What it does have: space, good connections, and enough hotels with their own parking where nobody pays attention to anyone.

What we can do together

The Museum Abteiberg, built by Hans Hollein, which is worth it for the architecture alone. The Abteikirche on top of the hill. The Bunter Garten for an hour of green. And the Schwalm-Nette nature region west of the city, which runs straight on into the Dutch border area.

If you would rather sit somewhere quiet straight away, that is just as good a start. Often easier, in fact, when you are tense.

Language

Dutch, German or English. In this area Dutch is really nothing special.

Who I come here for

For Dutch women who live or work across the border here. Also for women who are married and have not been touched the way they would want for years. For women who have become widowed. Just as much for women in the surrounding villages, where people know one another and this can be discussed with no one.

Couples too, who want to try something together. Under my services you can read what is possible.

Doubts I often hear

“What if I run into someone I know.” In a border city that is a real worry, because Dutch people come here. That is why I greet no one first and I am whoever you say I am if you speak to me.

“Am I not too old for this?” No, and I mean that sincerely. The women who book me are between twenty and well into their seventies. Most are over fifty.

“And if I want to stop halfway?” Then we stop. No failure, no problem.

Practical

The drive from Amsterdam is short and from Limburg barely a drive to speak of, so the travel costs are low. What they are you hear before anything is fixed, and that amount does not change afterward. That amount stands, afterward too.

I know no evening rate, no night rate, no weekend or public-holiday rate. If the two of you book, the price stays the same.

Discretion in practice

There is no company behind me. No agency, no middleman, no colleague who also gets your details, and no customer file with your name left in it. I keep messages no longer than the conversation runs.

On arrival I stand out nowhere. No flowers, no greeting the street can hear, and I put the car where you want it, a few streets further off if need be, and then I walk. If you run into someone you know, I am whoever you say I am. Think that story up in advance, because inventing something on the spot always goes wrong.

The first time

First we write a bit. I ask something, you ask something, and in that conversation you notice, without anyone naming it, whether it feels right. Calling is possible. Getting to know each other calmly once without anything else happening that day is possible too.

Almost everyone is tense the first time, and that belongs to it. What helps most is knowing exactly what is going to happen, so we go through that in advance: where we meet, what time, how I come in, what does happen and what does not.

On the day itself we start slowly. Sit, talk, and only when you are ready does the rest come. For most women that first part takes longer than they had expected. And nothing has to happen. A first date that consists of talking and an embrace is not half a date. For many women that is exactly enough and it goes further only a second time. After that it stays quiet on my side, unless you get in touch.

Changing your mind is allowed

Halfway too, even if you have specially set aside an evening for it and the room is already booked. You do not have to give a reason for it.

Dates rarely run exactly as planned anyway. Sometimes it becomes calmer than planned, sometimes not. I have no preference in that and no stake at all, other than that it feels good for you.

What I do not do

Rush. Pretend. Talk you into something because it seems logical. Reach out when you do not want that.

And I do not act as if this is something to be ashamed of. Paid companionship has existed as long as people have, it is a regulated profession in Germany, and the women who book me are in the vast majority ordinary people with an ordinary life, a job and a shopping list.

This is how it starts

Write to me with where you live and which days you could. Two sentences are enough, and I usually write back within a day.