Glossary
Orgasmic meditation
Fifteen minutes of attention for the sensation, not for the orgasm. Made famous and infamous by OneTaste.
What is orgasmic meditation?
Orgasmic meditation (abbreviated OM) is a partner exercise in which one person gently strokes the other’s clitoris for fifteen minutes, with the attention on the sensation instead of on an orgasm. Coming is expressly not the aim. The practice became known, and later infamous, through the American company OneTaste.
| Abbreviation | OM |
| Category | a mindfulness-like partner exercise, related to tantra |
| The exercise | gently stroking the clitoris for fifteen minutes, with a glove and lube |
| The aim | attention and connection, expressly not the orgasm |
| Origin | the company OneTaste, founded in 2004 by Nicole Daedone |
| Important caveat | OneTaste is controversial: Daedone was convicted of forced labor in 2025 |
How orgasmic meditation works
The exercise follows a fixed protocol. The “stroker”, often clothed, gently strokes the upper left of the “strokee’s” clitoris for a quarter of an hour, as the description has it, after putting on a glove and lube. The attention goes to what happens in the body, not to a climax. OneTaste presented it emphatically as a mindfulness exercise for developing “connective resonance” between the participants, which explains the kinship with the attentive, non-orgasm-focused side of tantra.
Why people do it, and an honest warning
The appeal is the slow, aimless attention to sensation: no performance, no end point, only feeling what’s there. For anyone used to sex having to go somewhere, that can be freeing. A firm caveat belongs here. The company that made OM big, OneTaste, has come under heavy fire. Founder Nicole Daedone and sales lead Rachel Cherwitz were convicted by a federal jury in 2025 of conspiracy to commit forced labor, and Daedone received nine years in prison. The exercise itself and the company are not the same thing, but anyone looking into it should know that history.
Where this fits on this site
The calm, attentive side of OM I recognize: sex doesn’t always have to work toward something. What I do is not an OM course, but that same slowness and attention, in a safe one-on-one form. How that goes is on the page about tantra. A conversation first is fine, without committing to anything.
Sources
- OneTaste Founder Nicole Daedone Sentenced to Nine Years in Prison for Forced Labor Conspiracy. U.S. Department of Justice, Eastern District of New York, 2026. Provides that OneTaste marketed “orgasmic meditation” and that founder Nicole Daedone was sentenced to nine years in prison for conspiracy to commit forced labor.
- Orgasmic meditation. Encyclopedia entry. Provides the description of the exercise as stroking the clitoris for fifteen minutes with the attention on the sensation and not on an orgasm, and the origin at OneTaste, founded in 2004 by Nicole Daedone.
Related terms
Orgasmic meditation is an attentive exercise not aimed at the orgasm. The terms below sit in the same corner.
- Tantra. The broader tradition of attentive, slowed-down sexuality that OM is related to.
- Karezza. A way of making love that also does not take the orgasm as its aim, just like OM.
- Yoni massage. An attentive massage of the vulva, related to the stroking in OM.
- Edging. Deliberately holding on to arousal without orgasm, a different game with the same postponement.
Frequently asked questions
Questions about this term
What is orgasmic meditation?
Orgasmic meditation is a partner exercise in which one person gently strokes the other’s clitoris for fifteen minutes, with the attention on the sensation instead of on an orgasm. Abbreviated OM, it became known through the company OneTaste.
Is OneTaste controversial?
Yes. OneTaste, the company that made orgasmic meditation big, has come under heavy fire. Founder Nicole Daedone and sales lead Rachel Cherwitz were convicted by a federal jury in 2025 of conspiracy to commit forced labor; Daedone received nine years in prison. The exercise itself and the company are not the same thing, but that history is part of it.
Who can you turn to with questions about orgasmic meditation?
Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience and a background as a psychotherapist. He doesn’t give an OM course, but he knows the slow, attentive side of sex well and applies it in a safe one-on-one form. You can ask him a question through the contact form or first chat for free.
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