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Glossary
Massage scenario
A massage that is also a role: the hands are real, the masseur is played.
What is a massage scenario?
A massage scenario is an erotic roleplay in which a massage forms the setting: one person plays masseur, the other the client being cared for. The massage is real, the casting made up. Who does what and how far it goes, you agree on beforehand.
| Also called | massage roleplay or a massage scene; massagescenario in Dutch |
| Also known as | a masseur roleplay; a form of roleplay around an erotic massage |
| Category | kink and roleplay |
| Not to be confused with | an ordinary erotic massage without a role or story |
| What you agree on | who plays which role, where the massage stops and where sex begins, and a safeword |
| Core | a safe detour to act out a fantasy without it having to become sex right away |
How a massage scenario works
A massage scenario leans on a small story that carries the rest. According to the encyclopedic description of sexual roleplay, people play a character in it, from doctor and patient to service provider and client, and a safeword is recommended. In a massage scenario that character is the masseur. The massage itself is a real one: the erotic massage is the working of erogenous zones for sexual pleasure, often as foreplay. The role only sets the tone and the pace.
Why people choose a massage scenario
The appeal is in the role you get to not be yourself for a while. As the client you don’t have to do anything back, as the masseur you set the pace. That such fantasies are ordinary shows in the study by Joyal, Cossette and Lapierre: of the fifty-five fantasies studied, thirty were common, and they warn against calling a fantasy unusual too quickly. For anyone who finds it hard to be spoiled, the setting lowers the threshold: it is, after all, “just a massage”. A scenario that feels forced backfires.
What I see myself
I’m Victor, a gigolo. Attention comes in a good deal more easily the moment something is called a massage. Women who find it hard to simply be spoiled often have enough with that one small role. The word “masseur” takes the pressure off, and what’s left is room to enjoy without anything in return.
Where this fits on this site
Feel like trying this calmly once without arranging everything yourself? Then an evening of intimate togetherness fits better than a tight script: no schedule to be met, and where it goes you decide along the way. This page just says what the term means. If you’re still unsure, feel free to ask your question.
Sources
- What exactly is an unusual sexual fantasy?. Joyal, Cossette & Lapierre, The Journal of Sexual Medicine 12(2), 328-340, 2015. Gives that thirty of the fifty-five fantasies studied were common and the warning against calling a fantasy unusual too quickly.
- Sexual roleplay. Wikipedia. Gives the description of sexual roleplay with a strong erotic element, the common scenarios such as service provider and client, and the advice to agree on a safeword.
- Erotic massage. Wikipedia. Gives the description of erotic massage as the working of erogenous zones for sexual pleasure, often used as foreplay.
Related terms
A massage scenario is a form of kink, a roleplay that uses the massage as its setting.
- Kink. The pillar: the broader field of preferences and play that a massage scenario falls under.
- Roleplay. The form that gives the scenario its masseur and client.
- Erotic massage. The real act the scenario builds a role around.
- Lingam massage. A specific kind of massage that lends itself just as well to a scenario.
- Consent. The agreement beforehand about who plays which role and where the massage stops.
Frequently asked questions
What people still ask about a massage scenario.
What is a massage scenario?
A massage scenario is an erotic roleplay in which a massage forms the setting: one person plays masseur, the other the client being cared for. The massage is real, the casting made up. What happens and how far it goes, you agree on beforehand.
Why do people choose a massage scenario?
People choose a massage scenario because the role gives room: as the client you don’t have to do anything back, as the masseur you set the pace. The setting of “just a massage” lowers the threshold to let yourself be spoiled. Such roleplay fantasies are, according to research, common, not the exception.
Who can you turn to with questions about a massage scenario?
Victor, a gigolo with about twenty-five years of experience and a background as a psychotherapist. He often uses a massage as a setup to put someone at ease, and will think it through with you without obligation. You can ask him a question through the contact form or chat for free first.
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Still have questions about a massage scenario?
I'm Victor, a gigolo. A massage as the setup is exactly what puts many women at ease, so feel free to ask about it. No obligation, I'll text you back whenever it suits you.