Gigolo in Schleswig-Holstein

Where Germany narrows

Schleswig-Holstein is the strip of Germany squeezed flat between the North Sea and the Baltic. Nowhere are you far from water, and that sets how it feels: windy, open, and far calmer than the south.

From Amsterdam Kiel is about five hours, Lübeck a little less. That’s too far for an evening and easily done as a night or a weekend, especially if you want to tie in something on the coast.

Kiel and Lübeck

Kiel sits on a fjord, which you won’t find quite like this anywhere else in Germany. The city is largely postwar and so not pretty in the classic sense, but the water makes up for a lot: ferries to Scandinavia, sailing ships, and the Kiellinie where you walk for miles along the water.

Lübeck is the opposite: medieval, built of brick, with the Holstentor that’s on every postcard and an old town set on an island. Travemünde on the coast belongs to it, with a beach where in winter you’re entirely alone.

Further up the coast

For a stay of a few days the coast is more interesting than the city. Sylt and Föhr on the North Sea side, Fehmarn and the Lübecker Bucht on the Baltic. Out of season it’s empty there, and that works exactly as it does on Texel or in Zeeland: the further from your ordinary life, the more room opens up.

Language

German, English or Dutch. On the North Sea side you run into Dutch visitors regularly, so no one there bats an eye.

Practical

Travel costs follow the distance, and you know them before we arrange anything. Nothing gets added afterward, and surcharges for the evening, the night, the weekend or a public holiday don’t exist with me. Booking as a pair costs nothing extra.

Plan it a few weeks ahead, and in the summer season longer, because then accommodation on the coast is scarce.

Who I come here for

For women who are married and have long missed what home no longer has words for. For partners of people who go to sea or are posted abroad, alone for months on end; in this state that’s a group in itself.

Women who lost their husband. And women who, after a divorce, plan a few days by the sea for themselves and would rather not spend those days on their own.

Couples are just as welcome. See my services.

How it goes

It starts with a message: where you are and which period you have in mind. I usually answer within a day, and after that we keep talking until it’s right for you. A call first is fine, a quiet first meeting too.

On the day itself we start slow. Sitting and talking to begin with, and further only if you want to. The pace is yours, and it can shift along the way.

Choose your city

Below are the two cities above two hundred thousand residents. Do you live in Flensburg, Neumünster, Husum or on one of the islands? Just send me a message with where you are.

About money

Before anything is fixed you know the length, the shape and the amount, including the drive north. Afterward there’s no surprise at all in the amount.

For a stay of several days I ask for a deposit, because by then I’ve already booked an apartment or a room on the coast myself.

Doubts I often hear

“Five hours of driving for me alone?” Yes. That’s my work and it’s built into the booking. Nothing to feel guilty about.

“Aren’t I too old for this?” No, and the age of whoever asks says nothing about it. The ages run from the early twenties to well into the seventies, and the group over fifty is by no means the smallest.

“And if there’s no click?” That almost always surfaces during the contact beforehand, and then we let it go.

For couples

With couples the conversation usually starts with whether it’s wise. If for one of you it’s mostly giving in rather than wanting, I notice, and then I stop it.

If you’ve genuinely talked it through, all sorts of things are possible. Being there, joining in, or following from a distance. Both of you can hit the brakes at any moment, even while we’re busy. The rate stays the same. Out of season a cottage on the coast is, on top of that, the quietest setting there is for this.