Gigolo in Oberhausen

Plenty of people, little attention

Through the CentrO and the event halls, Oberhausen draws tens of thousands of visitors from outside every day. For anyone who would rather not stand out, that is favorable. An unfamiliar face is completely normal here, and the hotels are used to guests staying one night.

From Amsterdam it is about three hours’ drive. A long evening works, a night works more pleasantly.

What we can do together

The Gasometer, an old gas holder well over a hundred meters high that now holds exhibitions you see nowhere else quite like this. Slot Oberhausen with the Ludwiggalerie. The Kaisergarten with the animal park. And the Rhein-Herne-Kanal with that striking bridge over it, lovely in the evening light.

And if you would rather do nothing, that is just as good an evening. I have no program that has to be worked through.

Language

German, English or Dutch. Just say what sits comfortably.

Who I come here for

For married women who cannot remember when they were last truly touched. Also for women who are starting over after a divorce and wonder whether they have lost the knack. For those who have to go on alone after a death. Just as much for women who care a great deal for others and rarely plan anything for themselves.

And for couples who want to try something together. See my services.

Discretion

I arrive without any fuss. No flowers, no greeting the hallway can hear, and I put the car where you want it. If someone asks who I am, I stick exactly to the story you have thought up.

There is no one between us either. No agency, no go-between, no colleague reading along, and your name ends up in no system. I keep messages no longer than the conversation runs.

In this city the surroundings actually work in your favor. Around the CentrO and the halls it fills up all day with people nobody knows, and a hotel guest for one night is the most normal thing in the world here.

Practical

What the trip costs you hear before there is a date, and that amount stays the amount. Nothing is added afterward. A Saturday night costs the same as a Tuesday afternoon, and whether you book alone or as a couple changes nothing about that.

Around big concerts and trade fairs the hotels here fill up quickly, so plan a week or two ahead if you can.

How it goes

A message with your town and a rough sketch of what you are looking for. I usually answer within a day, and after that we write on until it feels right for you: texting, calling, or getting to know each other first without anything having to come of it.

On the day itself we start slowly. Sit, talk, and only when you are ready does the rest come. Once you are home again, you hear nothing more from me unless you want to.

Doubts I often hear

“I have never dared talk to anyone about this.” That is true for almost all the women who write to me. You do not have to tell anyone else either. This conversation stays between us.

“Isn’t it strange to pay for it?” No. You pay for the time and attention of someone who takes this work seriously, just as with a masseur or a coach. What happens within that time, you decide.

“Am I not too old for this?” That has never once come up. The ages run from the early twenties to well into the seventies, and the over-fifties are comfortably in the majority.

For couples

Couples make up a steady part of my dates. Sometimes something has changed physically so that one of them can no longer do or want it. Sometimes it is curiosity. Sometimes a fantasy that has been going around for years without anyone doing anything with it.

What it looks like you decide together: watching, joining in, or staying in the room next door. What I ask is that you have really talked about it and that both of you can say at any moment that it is over. Halfway too. Booking with two people costs nothing extra with me.

What you may expect from me

I am at the door at the agreed time, well groomed and unhurried. I listen without pushing you anywhere and I do not startle at what you tell me. There is hardly anything I have not heard before.

Your boundary is the boundary, even at the moment you are not guarding it yourself. You set the pace. And about you I speak to no one, not to friends, not to others, not later.

Where we meet

Usually a hotel, and Oberhausen has enough of them. Around the CentrO and the arena there are chains where the desk barely looks up at a guest staying one night. Neutral ground, no neighbors, no house that has to be tidied first.

If we stay longer, an apartment with its own entrance is often more pleasant than a hotel. And home is possible too, provided you feel at ease there. That is the only thing that counts. We then arrange in advance what time I arrive and where the car goes.

This is how it starts

Send a message saying where you are and what moment you have in mind. That is where it begins, and nothing more.