Gigolo in Duisburg

Close by, and you notice that in the planning

Duisburg is two and a half hours from Amsterdam. That makes it, together with Krefeld and Aachen, the most easily reached big German city, and the only one where a date on a weekday evening is realistic without my arriving in a rush.

It is also a city with few pretensions. Hard work, a lot lived through, and a population that is not quickly surprised by anything.

What we can do together

The Innenhafen, where the old grain warehouses have been converted into restaurants and offices and the water lies beautifully in the evening. The Landschaftspark Duisburg-Nord, an extinguished blast furnace you can now walk right through and that is lit up in colours at night, bizarre and impressive at once. The Lehmbruck Museum. And the Sechs-Seen-Platte in the south, six lakes in a row with woods in between.

If you want none of all this, we simply start somewhere quiet. That is just as good an evening.

Language

German, English or Dutch. This close to the border Dutch is nothing unusual at all.

Who I come here for

For married women for whom the touch they are looking for no longer happens at home. And for women who are back at zero after the end of a marriage. For widows, for whom the one does not cancel out the other. Just as much for women who work shifts and have a life not set up for dates.

And for couples who want to try something together. The offering you will find under my services.

Where we meet

Plenty of hotels, with their own parking and a lot of business coming and going. For most women that is more comfortable than home. Neutral ground and no one who sees anything.

Home works just as well. Then we set down beforehand what time I arrive, where the car goes, and what answer I give if someone in the stairwell asks who I am. That answer you think up, not me.

Practical

Two and a half hours’ drive means low travel costs, and what they are exactly you hear before anything is fixed. That amount stays put, and nothing is added afterwards. No surcharge for the evening, the night, the weekend or a public holiday, and booking together costs no more than alone.

Because the drive is short, something at short notice works here more often than further into Germany. If you work shifts and only know late which evening you are free, that is least of all a problem here.

How it goes

You write me where you live and roughly what you have in mind. Two sentences is enough. Usually I answer the same day, and after that we write on until it fits for you. Texting, calling, or first a quiet introduction once without anything having to come of it.

On the day itself there is no kick-off. We sit down, we talk, and the rest comes when you are ready. Or not. If the pace changes halfway, then that is the pace.

For couples

Part of the messages I get come from couples. Sometimes because something has changed physically and one of them can or wants no longer. Sometimes out of curiosity. Sometimes because it has been talked about for years without anyone doing anything with it.

What happens then the two of you decide. Being there, joining in, or waiting in the room next door. Two things are conditions, though. You have really talked about it together, and both of you can stop at any moment, even when we are already busy. Booking as a couple costs nothing extra with me.

What you can expect from me

I am there on time, well groomed and without hurry. Listening without steering anywhere is the biggest part of this work, and flinch I do not. There is very little I have not heard before.

What you name as a limit is a limit, even when you forget it yourself for a moment. The pace you set. And about you I talk with no one. Not with friends, not with others, never.

Discretion in practice

With me there is no one else. There is no agency, no go-between, no colleague looking on, and no records in which your name appears. Messages I keep no longer than the conversation needs.

I arrive without fuss. No flowers, no greeting the neighbours hear, and the car goes where you want, by the harbour if need be, and the rest I walk. If you run into someone you know, I am whoever you say I am. Think that story up beforehand, then you have to make up nothing on the spot.

What women often say afterwards

Rarely that the sex was good, although that comes up too. What comes back most often is something else. That someone took the time. That there was no phone on the table. That someone asked how it really was, and that the answer stayed too.

And almost always the remark that they spent months thinking it over when that was not needed at all.

This is how it starts

Let me know where you are, and when it would suit. Nothing else is needed yet.