Gigolo in Dortmund

Straight to the point

The Ruhr area has a reputation for directness and Dortmund lives up to it. People here say what they mean, even when it is about something that actually makes them shy. In a first conversation that saves half an evening of talking around the subject.

With me you may just as well say what you want without any fuss, by the way. It does not throw me and I prefer it to guessing.

Three hours’ drive

From Amsterdam I am here in about three hours. A long evening is doable, a night works better, and for the Ruhr area as a whole you are in a neighbouring city within twenty minutes if you would rather not meet in your own.

What we can do together

The Zeche Zollern, a mine shaft in art nouveau that stands there as if someone made a mistake with the budget. The Dortmunder U with its museum. The Phoenix-See, a lake on the site of an old steelworks, where you now walk along the water as if there had never been anything else. And the Westfalenpark for an hour of green.

If you would rather sit somewhere quiet straight away, that is just as good a plan.

Language

German, English or Dutch. Whatever suits you best.

Who I come here for

For women who are married and have not been touched the way they would want for years, without there being any row or anyone to blame. Also for women who stayed on in the same district after a divorce. For widows, whose body is already further along than the head. Just as much for women who work hard and are nowhere simply allowed to be.

For couples too who want to try something together. The offering is under my services.

Where we meet

A hotel is usually the easiest route here. The Ruhr area is full of business hotels with their own car park and a lot of coming and going, exactly what you want if you would rather not stand out.

Home works just as well. Then we agree beforehand how I arrive, where I park and what I say if someone asks who I am. In a terraced street I watch that as carefully as in a Dutch village.

What it is not

No agency, no catalogue, no go-between. You write me, I write back, and I am also the one who rings the bell. No list of acts is ticked off beforehand.

It is not a performance in which you have to show what you can do either. You do not have to look like someone on a screen and you do not have to say sorry for anything. In a city where people say what they mean, that fits rather well.

Practical

What the drive costs you know before anything is fixed, and that stays the amount. Nothing that turns up afterwards. No surcharge for the evening, the night, the weekend or a public holiday. Two people cost the same as one.

Plan a week or two ahead. Around a BVB home game there is not a room to be had in the whole city, so then we pick another date.

For couples

Part of my post comes from couples. With one there is something changed in what is still physically possible, with another it is curiosity, and with yet another there is a fantasy that has come up for years without anyone touching it.

That can become all sorts of things. Watching, joining in, or just sitting in the other room. What I do ask is that the two of you have talked about it, really talked, and that either of you can draw a line under it at any moment. Even in the middle of the evening still. For two people I charge no more than for one.

What you can expect from me

On time, well groomed, no hurry. I listen without steering and I pull no face at what you tell me. There is hardly anything I have not heard before.

Your limits I guard more strictly than you perhaps guard them yourself at that moment. You set the pace. And you appear in not a single conversation of mine. Not with friends, not with others, never.

Discretion in practice

I work on my own. No agency, no go-between, no colleagues, no file your name is in. Messages I throw away as soon as they have served their purpose.

On arrival I keep it inconspicuous. No flowers, no loud greeting, and the car goes where you want it, a few streets away if need be. If you meet someone you know, I am whoever you say I am. Make that story up beforehand, then you do not have to improvise on the spot.

This is how it starts

Send me a message. Where you are, when you could. That is enough. Within a day you usually have an answer.