Gigolo in Bochum

In the middle of the area

Bochum lies exactly between Essen and Dortmund, and that is handier for you than it sounds. Someone who lives here and would rather not meet in their own city is somewhere else in a quarter of an hour, where no one knows them.

The university keeps the city young and provides enough places where people stay sitting late without it being noticed.

What we can do together

The Bermudadreieck, the nightlife quarter that is less rough than the name suggests. The Deutsches Bergbau-Museum with that winding tower above it. The Jahrhunderthalle, an old gas plant that is now a concert hall. And the Ruhr-Universität with its botanical grounds, where there is a Japanese garden that almost no one knows.

A little further lies the Ruhr valley near Hattingen. Half-timbering, water and walking trails, and that ten minutes from a city of three hundred and fifty thousand people.

Language

German, English or Dutch. Switching halfway is no problem.

Who I come here for

For women who are married and have long missed what does not get said out loud at home. Also for women who start over after a divorce and wonder whether they have lost the knack. For widows too. Just as much for PhD students and lecturers who have everything under control except this.

And for couples, from being together and touch to a whole night. The overview is under my services.

Doubts I often hear

“Isn’t this something for other women?” Almost everyone wonders that, and the answer is no. The women who book me are lecturers, nurses, PhD students, entrepreneurs. People with a diary and a mortgage.

“What if I am nervous and dare not do anything?” Then it becomes an evening of talking, and that was a fine evening. Nothing has to be achieved.

“And what if there is no click?” We almost always notice that in the messages beforehand. Then we simply plan nothing, and it has cost you nothing but a few texts.

Practical

Three hours’ drive from Amsterdam, and the travel costs that go with it you are told before there is a date. That amount does not change afterwards and nothing is added at the end. I charge nothing extra for the evening, the night, the weekend or a public holiday, and a date as a couple costs the same as alone.

Where we meet

Usually a hotel. In Bochum itself, or just over the municipal boundary if you would rather be entirely out of your own streetscape. Essen and Dortmund are a quarter of an hour.

Home is possible too, but be honest about your place. In a building with students above and below you, where you hear everything through the wall, you sit more comfortably in a hotel. We agree beforehand how I arrive and where the car stays parked.

For couples

Couples write me more often than people think. The reason varies. Something has changed in what one of them can or wants, or there is pure curiosity, or there is a fantasy that has been on the table for years without anyone taking a step.

What it looks like the two of you decide together. Watching, joining in, or sitting somewhere else in the house. What I do ask is that the conversation about it has already been had, really had, and that both of you can say at any moment that it is done. Even when we are already busy. Booking as a couple costs nothing extra with me.

What you can expect from me

I am there at the agreed time, well groomed, and without the hurry of someone who has to be somewhere afterwards. I listen without steering anywhere and I do not flinch at what you tell me. There is very little I have not heard before.

Your limit I hold to, even when you stretch it in the moment yourself. The pace is yours. And with no one do I talk about you. Not with friends, not with others, not later, never.

Discretion in practice

I arrange everything myself. No agency behind me, no go-between, no colleague looking on, no client file your name ends up in. Messages disappear as soon as they are no longer needed.

I arrive inconspicuously. No flowers on the doorstep, no loud greeting, and the car is where you want it, two streets away if need be. If you run into someone you know in the lift, I am whoever you say I am. Think that story up beforehand, then you have to improvise nothing on the spot.

The first time

Nerves come with a first date, for almost everyone. That is part of it and it settles by itself. What helps most is knowing exactly what is going to happen, so we go through that beforehand. The address, the time, how I come in, what does happen and what does not.

And then this. Nothing has to happen. A first time that consists of a conversation and an embrace is not a failed date. For some of the women that is exactly what they were looking for, and it only goes further the second time.

This is how it starts

Send me a message saying where you are and when you could. You usually have an answer within a day.