Questions About Choosing and Comparing

With an agency the contact runs through a staff member and you pay fifteen to thirty percent brokerage on top of the rate. On top of that, you often don’t know who’s coming until the evening itself, because a stand-in is allowed. Booking directly, you message with me, you pay only the rate, and I’m the one at your door. What an agency gives back is availability and a backup if someone drops out.

Roughly €100 to €500 an hour, depending on whether you’re with a budget provider, in the mid-range or premium, and whether an agency sits in between charging brokerage on top. With me it’s €250 an hour, a two-hour minimum. The full explanation with all the amounts is on Pricing.

Not with me: you pay for the time, not per person. Plenty of agencies do charge a couple extra and rarely put that up front, so ask about it explicitly when you compare. More about what is and isn’t included in the rate is on Pricing.

Only travel costs and parking, if any. Travel costs depend on your province, from €75 in North Holland to €375 in Limburg, and you know the amount before you say yes. No surcharge for the night, the weekend or coming as a couple. The table is on Pricing.

Yes, and it costs nothing. A phone or video call is always an option, and a coffee date is fine too. With an agency that’s rarely possible, because there you speak to a staff member beforehand and not the person who comes. How booking works from there is on Booking.

Notice how you’re treated before the date. Do you get an answer to your actual question, or a stock reply that fits anywhere? Is there follow-up, or does it go straight to dates and amounts? That tells you more than any profile text ever could.

Yes, as a full service and not as an add-on at extra cost. Bondage, dominance and power play, always with a talk beforehand about boundaries and a safeword, and with aftercare afterward. I’ve been active in BDSM since 1990, so you don’t have to explain anything you’d otherwise have to explain to someone else. More is on BDSM date.

Aftercare is the winding down afterward: staying close, talking, landing together instead of a door that slams shut. With me that time is part of the date and it carries on in the days after. Agencies rarely mention it. What it involves exactly is on Aftercare.

All across the Netherlands, and in Belgium and Germany in consultation. I come to you; the travel costs depend on your province and run from €75 in North Holland to €375 in Limburg. You know that amount before you say yes. For abroad and multi-day dates I set one price that covers everything.

Because it isn’t about running anyone down. I compare ways of working and costs, so you can see for yourself how a provider scores on the points that matter to you. There are decent agencies and there are bad ones, and the same goes for independents. Naming a name says nothing about that; the columns do.

Not me, and that’s a deliberate choice. Anyone who registers as a gigolo or applies for a permit ends up in a (public) register with their name, address and activity. Registers like that get resold, and now and then one gets hacked and all the data ends up out in the open. Then every connection to that name traces back to sex work. Yours included. That’s why my gigolo service is registered nowhere. You pay in cash, in Bitcoin, or by bank through my coaching practice. What does say something: reviews, visible prices and direct contact.

An agency always keeps a client database and a set of books. Your name, your number and what you booked sit there in a database, often for years. Files like that get hacked, and it’s gone wrong before with exactly this kind of service. What criminals do with it ranges from blackmail to phishing and identity fraud, and with a sensitive date that’s the last thing you want. With me there’s nothing to leak. I work without an agency, I keep no file, and whatever isn’t needed disappears once our date is over.

Not necessarily: verification mainly protects the agency, not you. It sounds reassuring, and I understand why, but think about what it comes down to. To verify you, an agency has to request a copy of your identity document and store it somewhere, and that puts your most sensitive document right in the kind of database that can be hacked. That’s why I never ask for your ID. The less that’s kept about you, the less that can ever surface anywhere.