Professional cuddling: what it is and how it works
Professional cuddling is cuddling by appointment, clothes on and nothing sexual about it. Here is how it works, and who it is for.
Glossary
Spooning
The cuddle position that is just as much a sex position, and why it feels so good with pain, pregnancy, or tiredness.
What is spooning?
Spooning is a position where both partners lie on their side, one with their belly against the other’s back. It is a cuddle position and a sex position at once. The name comes from two spoons that nest together in a drawer. Whoever lies in front is called the little spoon, whoever lies behind is the big spoon.
| Also called | spooning. Both the cuddle and the sex version go by the name. |
| The two roles | the little spoon lies in front, the big spoon lies behind |
| Category | one of the sexual acts, and just as much a cuddle position |
| Origin of the name | two spoons nesting side by side in a drawer |
| Good with | pain, pregnancy, or tiredness, because no one carries their weight |
| Where it goes wrong | the lower arm falls asleep, and the angle is fussier than you think |
Where spooning comes from
The name is older than you would think. The etymological dictionary records “lie spoon-fashion” as early as 1814 and “lie close, as two stacked spoons” around 1870; the verb to spoon for making love and flirting dates to 1831. The image behind it is simple: two spoons lying inside each other, one person’s face against the other’s back.
Why people enjoy spooning
The appeal is in the back against the chest: lots of skin, little effort, and you do not have to look at each other. For anyone who is tired, pregnant, or hurting somewhere, it is one of the few positions in which no one has to carry their own weight. What rarely gets mentioned: the lower arm falls asleep, and without a pillow or a small shift it gets awkward after fifteen minutes. Lovely, then, but not a position to freeze in for a whole night.
What I notice in practice
I’m Victor, a gigolo. Spooning comes back with me more often as aftercare than as a sex position: lying like that for a while afterward, with nothing left to do. What strikes me is how quickly someone who holds themselves together goes soft in that position. Back against chest apparently says something a conversation does not.
Where this fits on this site
Is that mainly what you are looking for, lying close to someone with nothing you have to do? Then cuddle therapy probably fits it better than a sex booking. This page only explains the position; what such a booking involves you can read there, and you may always just ask your question first.
Sources
- Spoon (etymology). Online Etymology Dictionary. Gives “lie spoon-fashion” (1814), “lie close, as two stacked spoons” (1870), and the verb to spoon for making love and flirting (1831).
- Spooning. English-language encyclopedia. Gives the description as both a sex position and a cuddling technique and the origin of the name from two spoons lying side by side.
Related terms
Spooning is one of the sexual acts and sits close to pure cuddling.
- Sexual acts. The wider category this position falls under.
- Skin hunger. The lack of touch that a position like this fills exactly.
- Aftercare. Where spooning often flows into on its own: staying like that for a while afterward.
Frequently asked questions
What people still ask about spooning.
What is spooning?
Spooning is a position where both partners lie on their side, one with their belly against the other’s back. It is a cuddle position and a sex position at once. The name refers to two spoons that nest together in a drawer.
Why does spooning feel so good?
Spooning feels good because you have a lot of skin contact with little effort: no one carries their own weight and you do not have to look at each other. That makes it one of the few positions that stays comfortable even with pain, pregnancy, or tiredness. The only drawback is that the lower arm falls asleep after a while.
Who can you turn to with questions about spooning?
Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience and a background as a psychotherapist. Whether you are mainly after the cuddle or the sex position, he is glad to think along with no obligation. You can ask him a question through the contact form or first chat for free.
Blog
Articles about touch and lying close together
Spooning is about skin and closeness. These two pieces are about exactly that.
Skin hunger: symptoms, causes, and how to ease it
Recognize the symptoms of skin hunger: the causes, the effects, and how to soften a lack of touch and the longing behind it.
Learn more
Still have questions about spooning?
I'm Victor, a gigolo. Whether it's the cuddle or the sex position you have in mind, feel free to ask about it. No obligation, I'll text you back at your leisure.
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