Solo practice

What is solo practice?

Solo practice is kink you do on your own, from self-bondage to orgasm control, without a partner there. You handle the whole experience yourself, from tying up to getting free. That is exactly what makes it riskier than play with someone else: there is no one who can save you if something goes wrong.

How solo practice works

Solo practice is BDSM with yourself as both parties. According to coach Brandon Stover it is about both physical and mental exploration: self-bondage, sensation play, impact, and orgasm control, but also fantasy, discipline, and building skills before you bring a partner in. The dynamic of control, surrender, and tension then plays out not between two people, but inside yourself. That is the appeal: you explore on your own terms, at your own pace.

Why safety counts double here

The flip side is that you are on your own. According to the encyclopedic description, self-bondage is considered riskier than a lot of other BDSM, and it has led to a number of recorded deaths, especially combined with breath control. The core problem: if something goes wrong, there is no one to save you, and if your circulation leaves a limb numb, your planned escape may no longer work. That is why solo practice asks for more preparation, not less, than play with someone else.

What you can do yourself

• Keep scissors within reach at every tie, and set your phone out for when something goes wrong.
• Never tie yourself in a way you cannot reliably escape, and keep at least one hand free during self-bondage.
• Avoid breath control and substances. Breath restriction on its own, and judgment blurred by alcohol or drugs, are the fastest road to an accident.

Where this fits on this site

I’m Victor, a gigolo for women, and solo practice is by definition something you do yourself. But if you want to explore kink together in a safe setting, with someone who watches out for you, that is exactly what I’m here for. If you’re curious how a meeting like that gets arranged, the page on the BDSM date explains it. You can always call or text me first, without promising anything.

Sources

• Self-bondage. Wikipedia. Supplies that self-bondage can be practiced alone, that it is riskier than a lot of other BDSM and has led to recorded deaths, and that in an accident there is no one to save you.

Related terms

• Autobondage. The most common and most dangerous form of solo practice.
• Orgasm control. A form of solo practice you can also do alone.
• BDSM. The wider frame that solo practice is the solo variant of.
• Safeword. In solo practice replaced by an exit you arrange beforehand, because a safeword only helps with a partner.