Glossary
Mutual masturbation
Satisfying each other without penetration, often the first step for anyone who does not want penetration, and why it belongs among the safer forms.
What is mutual masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is masturbating together: two or more people who satisfy themselves or each other by hand, at the same time or in turn. No penetration is involved. As long as no bodily fluids are exchanged, it counts as safer sex.
| Also known as | masturbating together, giving each other a handjob or fingering |
| Category | one of the sexual acts without penetration |
| Not to be confused with | masturbation on your own; here it happens together |
| Applies to | partners of any make-up, at the same time or in turn |
| Core to know | usually safe, with a small chance of an STI if fingers carry fluid across |
What mutual masturbation looks like
There are two common forms. The encyclopedic description calls it masturbating together where two or more people satisfy themselves at the same time, or satisfy each other by hand. In the first form you do not touch each other and mostly watch; in the second you do it to the other.
The same description calls mutual masturbation a way people use as an alternative to penetration, to avoid a pregnancy or to put penetration off. For many people it is a calm first step, and not necessarily an end station.
Why people enjoy it
The pull is in the combination of being close and little pressure. You see what the other likes, you do not have to perform, and you keep control over your own body. For anyone who does not want or cannot have penetration, it is often the way enjoying each other still works.
There is one honest nuance to the safety. Sense.info, run by the GGD, files masturbation, handjobs and fingering under usually safe for STIs, with the note that there is a small chance of transmission if you bring semen, vaginal fluid or menstrual blood from one person to the other’s mucous membranes. Just washing your hands in between mostly solves that.
What I notice about it
Mutual masturbation is often dismissed as a warm-up, while for many people it is the best part. I’m Victor, a gigolo, and what I see is that it brings calm: nothing has to happen, and precisely because of that more happens than expected. For anyone nervous at a first time, this is often the gentlest way in.
Where this fits on my site
If you want to be together without anything having to happen, and in a way where you keep control over your own pace, that suits how I work well. The page on intimate togetherness shows what such a meeting looks like, calm and without rush. If you are unsure, feel free to ask first.
Sources
- Mutual masturbation. Wikipedia. Yields the description as masturbating together where people satisfy themselves at the same time or satisfy each other by hand, the use as an alternative to penetration, and that it is safer sex as long as no bodily fluids are exchanged.
- What is safe and what is not?. Sense.info, run by the GGD. Yields that masturbation, handjobs and fingering are usually safe for STIs, with the small chance of transmission if semen, vaginal fluid or menstrual blood reaches the other’s mucous membranes.
Related terms
- Sexual acts. The pillar: the whole of ways to have sex, of which mutual masturbation is a non-penetrative form.
- Masturbation. The same, but alone; mutual masturbation is the variant you do together.
- Oral sex. Another common act without penetration, with its own risk profile.
- Safer sex. The broader frame of sex with as little risk as possible, of which mutual masturbation is one of the safest forms.
Frequently asked questions
What people still ask about mutual masturbation.
What is mutual masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is masturbating together: two or more people who satisfy themselves or each other by hand, at the same time or in turn, without penetration. As long as no bodily fluids are exchanged, it belongs among the safer forms of sex.
Is mutual masturbation safe?
Who can you turn to with questions about mutual masturbation?
Victor, a gigolo. If you want to be together without anything having to happen, or you have a question about how safe something is, he is glad to think it over with you. Ask him with no obligation through the contact form or first through chatting for free.
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I'm Victor, a gigolo. Do you want to be together without anything having to happen, or are you wondering how safe it is? I'm glad to talk it through with you. Ask your question, no obligation, and I'll message you back whenever suits you.
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