Gigolo in Amersfoort

A city that works well as a backdrop

Amersfoort has one of the best-preserved medieval centers in the Netherlands. The Muurhuizen, the Koppelpoort, the little canals around them. It is a setting where a walk slows down on its own. And that is exactly what helps when you are nervous, because walking side by side talks more easily than sitting across from each other.

From Amsterdam I am here in about forty minutes. Fine for an evening, and certainly for a night.

What we can do together

The Koppelpoort in the evening light. A loop along the Eem. Museum Flehite or the Mondriaan House when it rains. Eating in the inner city, where there are plenty of small places that are on no list. And close by, the Utrechtse Heuvelrug on one side, the Veluwe on the other. An hour’s walk in the woods and the world has grown smaller.

If you would rather sit somewhere quiet straight away, that is just as good a plan. The lead-up is there for you, not because it is expected.

Who I come to Amersfoort for

For women who are married and have missed for years what they do not say aloud. For women who have just divorced and do not know how they begin again. For widows whose body wants something while the mind is still grieving. For women with a busy job and a calendar that holds nothing for themselves. And for women who have never experienced any of this and would like that first time at their own pace.

I have a background as a psychotherapist. That does not mean it becomes therapy, but it does mean there is room for whatever comes up. What forms this can take is set out under my services.

Where we meet

Home is fine, if you feel at ease there. Otherwise a hotel is more comfortable. In and around Amersfoort there are good options, with parking and enough coming and going not to stand out. I am glad to think along.

On arrival I keep it inconspicuous. No flowers, no loud greeting, and I park where you want. If you want a story ready in case someone asks who I am, we come up with that together beforehand.

Practical

You hear the travel costs beforehand, before anything is fixed. No surcharges for evenings, nights, weekends or public holidays. Booking together costs the same. More on how it works in practice is at the frequently asked questions.

How a first date goes

It begins with a few messages back and forth. Some questions pass between us, and at some point you know whether this fits you. Calling works too, if typing feels too distant. If you want a coffee first with nothing else happening, we do that. It happens more often than you think and it is a good beginning.

On the day itself we start slowly. First sitting, first talking, and only when you are there does the rest come. For most women that first part takes more time than they planned, and that is exactly right.

Afterwards you hear nothing from me unless you want to. No “how was it”, no reminder months later.

Doubts I hear a lot

“Is it not strange to pay for this?” No. You are paying for hours with someone who is good at it and who does not watch the clock. What happens in those hours, you decide.

“Am I not too old for this?” No, and the age of whoever asks says nothing about it. Women come who are in their twenties and women well into their seventies. The fifties and sixties are the largest group.

“What if I am nervous and dare nothing?” Then we talk, and that was the date. There is nothing here you have to deliver.

What you can expect from me

On time, well-groomed, no hurry. I listen without steering anywhere and I am not shocked by anything. You set the speed, even if it changes halfway through. And I discuss you with no one, ever.

This is how it starts

Send me a message with where you are and roughly what you are after. Short is fine, you do not have to write a letter. I usually reply within a day and after that you set the pace. Calling first is an option, a coffee first too.

Get in touch, and together we look at what is possible.