Gigolo in Leiden

Leiden sits conveniently

By train I’m in Leiden in half an hour from Amsterdam, and that makes this city one of the easiest appointments in South Holland. Short travel means low travel costs, more room in the schedule and a better chance it works out on the day you have in mind.

The city itself helps too. Everything is within walking distance, there are enough people on the street not to stand out, and at the same time within two streets you’ll find an almshouse where it’s completely quiet.

What we can do together

Walking along the Rapenburg, maybe the most beautiful canal in the country. The Hortus botanicus, where within fifteen minutes you forget there’s a city around it. The Burcht, with a view over the rooftops. The National Museum of Antiquities or Naturalis if it rains. And you can eat in a hundred places here, from student-casual to serious.

Or we do none of that. Sitting somewhere quiet right away is just as good a start, especially if the idea of “doing something first” mainly makes you nervous. I’m fine with either and I have no preference. It’s about you.

Who I come to Leiden for

For women who are married and haven’t really been touched in years. Also for women on their own since a divorce or a loss. For women who are academic and independent and for that very reason find it hard to be vulnerable anywhere. Just as much for women who have never experienced anything and would rather not learn it from someone who doesn’t know what he’s doing either.

I assume nothing and I don’t judge. What you want you decide yourself, even if that changes halfway through. The forms it can take are listed at my services.

Where we meet

Home is possible, if you’re at ease there. In a student building with thin walls a hotel is usually more comfortable, and there are plenty in and around the city. I’m glad to think along.

On arrival I keep it low-key: no flowers, no loud greeting, and I park where you want. If you want me to have a story ready in case someone asks who I am, we come up with that together beforehand.

Practical

Travel costs are modest here and you hear them before anything is settled. There are no surcharges for the evening, the night, the weekend or holidays, and booking as a couple costs no extra. Want to know more about how it works in practice? Look at the frequently asked questions.

How a first meeting goes

A few messages, that’s all it is at the start. A few questions from both sides, and then you usually know. If you’d rather call first, we call. First a cup of coffee and nothing more? That happens more often than you’d think.

The day itself starts calmly. We sit first, we talk, and only when you want it does more follow. For most women that first part lasts longer than they’d planned. That’s exactly right. It makes the rest easier.

Afterward it stays quiet on my end, unless you want otherwise. No “how was it”, no message months later.

Doubts I hear often

“Doesn’t it feel strange to put money down for this?” Not really. You pay for the hours and the attention of someone who takes this seriously, just like with a good physiotherapist. The rest is up to you.

“What if I’m nervous and don’t dare do anything?” Then we talk for an evening and that was a good appointment. I have no goal that has to be met.

“What if there’s no click?” Then we probably notice that already in the messages beforehand, and then we simply don’t plan anything. That’s a problem for no one.

This is how it starts

A short message is enough: where you are, what you’re looking for, when you could. No long wait needed; a day is usual. After that we keep talking until it feels right for you, and if you’d first like to call or have coffee with no obligation, we do that.

Send me a message. Want to know first who’ll be sitting across from you, you can read that here.