Gigolo in Gouda

Small town, short lines

Gouda has seventy thousand residents and feels like half that. You walk across the old centre in twenty minutes, everyone knows someone who knows you, and for many women that is exactly the reason they hesitate.

Understandable, and solvable at the same time. Gouda is central. Rotterdam half an hour, Utrecht half an hour, The Hague forty minutes. If you would rather arrange nothing in your own town, you are as anonymous as it gets elsewhere. And if you do want to stay in Gouda, I match everything to how invisible you want to be.

What we can do together

The Markt with the town hall in the middle, at its best just after the market ends and the square empties. The Sint-Janskerk with those stained-glass windows that have been in place for centuries. A walk along the Reeuwijkse Plassen, ten minutes outside town, where the water takes over the light. And plenty of small restaurants where the light is low.

Or none of that. If you would rather just sit somewhere quiet straight away, that is just as good a beginning, and often easier when you are nervous.

Discretion, extra important here

In a town this size I count my steps. I park where you want, even if that is a good way off. I do not come with flowers or anything else that stands out. I do not ring the bell three times if you take a moment to open the door. And if someone asks who I am, I stick to the story you came up with.

I work alone, so there is no agency and no middleman. Your name is in no system anywhere and I discuss you with nobody.

Who I come to Gouda for

For women who are married and have long missed what they cannot say at home. For women who stayed in the same street after a divorce and feel that everyone is watching. Widows who feel guilty for wanting something again. And women who are simply curious, with no grief behind it.

I do not judge and I assume nothing. More about what is possible is set out under my services, and the practical questions are answered at the frequently asked questions.

Practical

From Amsterdam, Gouda is about an hour. You hear the travel costs beforehand, before anything is fixed. No surcharge for evenings, nights, weekends or public holidays. Booking as a couple costs nothing extra.

How a first date goes

First a few messages go back and forth. We ask each other what we need to, and along the way you feel whether it sits right. A phone call beforehand is easily arranged. Want a coffee first with nothing else happening, in Utrecht or Rotterdam if you like, where nobody knows you? Then that is a fine start.

On the day itself it starts calmly. Sitting, talking, and the rest comes only when you are ready. For most women that first part runs over, and that is exactly what you want in a town where you are on your guard.

Afterwards it stays quiet unless you want otherwise. No text asking how it was, no message months later.

Doubts I hear a lot

“Soon the whole town will know.” That is exactly why I do it the way I do. No flowers, no conspicuous car, parking where you want, and meeting in another municipality if need be.

“Am I not too old for this?” No, and I mean that sincerely. From the late twenties to well into the seventies, and nobody has ever said she felt too old once she was sitting there.

“Can I stop if I want to?” Always. That is no failure and certainly no problem.

What you can expect from me

Being on time and well-groomed is the minimum. After that I listen, without steering anywhere, and I am not shocked by anything. And I discuss you with nobody, ever.

What women often say afterwards

Afterwards it is rarely about the sex, though it comes up. Usually it is about something else. That someone took the time. That no phone was picked up. That someone asked how things really were and the answer landed.

And almost always the remark that all those months of doubt had been for nothing.

This is how it starts

Send me a message with where you are and roughly what you are after. It can be short. I usually reply within a day and after that you set the pace. Want to call first, or have a coffee somewhere outside Gouda with no obligation to take it further, then we do that.

Get in touch, and together we find something that fits how small Gouda is.