Gigolo in Delft

Small, and that cuts both ways

Delft is compact. You walk from the station to the Markt in ten minutes and across the whole old centre in twenty. That is charming, but it also means you are more likely to run into someone you know than in Rotterdam or The Hague.

That is exactly why many women from Delft choose to meet just outside the city. The Hague is ten minutes away by train, Rotterdam fifteen. In either of those cities you are completely anonymous. If you would rather stay in Delft, that is fine. I simply match my arrival to how visible you want to be.

What we can do together

The canals along the Oude Delft, where the view has been the same for centuries. The Markt with the Nieuwe Kerk rising above it. The Prinsenhof, where you can still see the bullet holes in the wall. And plenty of small restaurants where the light is low and nobody is in a hurry.

If you would rather be outdoors, the Delftse Hout sits on the edge of the city, and on the other side you are in the dunes at Kijkduin within a quarter of an hour. A walk often does more for the nerves than a table across from each other.

Who I come to Delft for

For women who are married and have long missed something they never name. For women who have just divorced and wonder how you start over. Women who work at the university or in engineering, who achieve a great deal and rarely get to simply be. Widows whose body wants something while the head is still catching up.

I have a background as a psychotherapist, which mostly means I listen well and am not fazed by anything. What we do is up to you. See my services for the forms it can take.

Arriving discreetly

No flowers, no loud greeting on the doorstep, no car circling the block twice. I park where you want, I come in the way you prefer, and if someone asks who I am, I stick to the story we worked out beforehand.

I am the only one involved. No agency, no middleman. And no system that your name ends up in.

Practical

From Amsterdam I reach Delft in about an hour. You hear the travel costs beforehand, before anything is fixed. No surcharge for evenings, nights, weekends or public holidays. If the two of you come together, the amount does not change. The rest is answered at the frequently asked questions.

How a first date goes

It starts with messages. A few questions go back and forth, and at some point you know whether this suits you. Rather call first? Then we do that. Want a coffee first, in The Hague or Rotterdam if you like, where you meet nobody, with nothing else happening, then we do that.

On the day itself it starts calmly. To begin with we just sit and talk, and more follows on your initiative. For most women that first part lasts longer than they had expected, and that is exactly right.

Afterwards it stays quiet, unless you want otherwise. No “how was it”, no reminder half a year on.

What it is not

It is not an agency with a catalogue. From your very first line you have me on the other end, and it is me you see too. No list gets ticked off in advance, and I do not work from a script.

There is no performing to it. You do not have to look like someone on the internet, you do not have to prove anything, and there is nothing to apologise for. Not your body, not your age, not what you want.

What you can expect from me

On time, well-groomed, no hurry. I listen without steering you anywhere and I am not shocked by anything. You set the pace, even when it changes halfway.

This is how it starts

Send me a message with where you are and roughly what you are after. Short is fine, you do not have to write a nice story. I usually reply within a day and after that we go on at your pace.

Get in touch and we will see together whether it clicks.