Gigolo in Zwolle

Big enough, small enough

Zwolle has a good hundred and thirty thousand residents and an old town ringed by a star-shaped moat. You walk across it in half an hour, and at the same time there are enough people about not to stand out. For a date that is a pleasant size.

From Amsterdam it is about an hour and a half. Manageable for a long evening, nicer as a night.

What we can do together

The Sassenpoort, the last of the old city gates. The Museum de Fundatie with that strange egg-shaped addition on the roof, which you can walk into for a view over the rooftops. The ring of canals for a walk round. And the Grote Markt with the terraces.

Outside the city lies the IJssel, with water meadows you walk along for miles, and on the other side the Nationaal Park de Weerribben half an hour away.

Who I come here for

For married women who have long waited for something they never asked out loud. Also for women who start again after a divorce and do not know how that goes. For widows who feel guilty about wanting something again, which there is no need for. Just as much for women who live in one of the villages around Zwolle, where everyone knows everyone.

For couples too: from touch and skin hunger to an erotic overnight. The whole overview is under my services.

Discretion in and around the city

In the centre of Zwolle nobody pays you any mind. In Hattem, Wijhe or Dalfsen that is different, and many women choose for that reason to meet in the city rather than at home. That is a sensible call and I am glad to think along about a place.

On arrival I keep it low-key: no flowers, no loud greeting, and I park where you want.

How a first date goes

At the start it is no more than some writing. I ask a few questions, you ask a few questions, and somewhere in that conversation you sense on your own whether it fits. If you would rather call first, we call. If you would rather simply meet once with nothing following, fine.

On the day itself we begin slowly. Sitting, talking, and the rest comes only when you are ready. After that you hear nothing from me, unless you want to.

Changing your mind is allowed

Halfway too, even when everything was already planned. Nothing wrong with it, and I do not lie awake over it. I steer nowhere and I have no stake in what does or does not happen, beyond you feeling good.

Money matters

Everything is fixed before you commit to anything: what we do, how long, what it costs, and the travel costs for an hour and a half’s drive. Nothing gets added afterwards. No surcharge for the evening, the night, the weekend or a public holiday, and booking together costs the same as alone.

If you are still on the fence

Sending a message binds you to nothing. Many women write months before anything gets planned, purely to know how it works. Some are then never heard from again, and that is fine; others get in touch again six months later.

No sales pitch follows. I do not press, I send no reminder, and my diary does not need filling.

What women often say afterwards

Afterwards it is rarely about the sex, though that comes up too. What comes back most often is something else: that someone took the time. That nobody looked at a phone. That the question of how things really were got asked, and that the answer stayed in the room too.

And almost always the remark that they thought about it far too long.

Doubts I hear often

“Do you really pay for this?” Yes, and there is nothing strange about it. What you buy is time and full attention from someone who is good at it. How that time is filled is up to you.

“Am I not too old for this?” No. Women in their thirties ask that question as often as women in their seventies. From the mid-twenties to well into the seventies, and the largest group is around sixty.

“What if there is no click?” That almost always shows in the messages. Then no date happens and there is nothing the matter.

This is how it starts

Write me where you live and which moment would suit you.