Gigolo in Purmerend

Close to the city, far from the bustle

Purmerend sits twenty minutes from Amsterdam-Noord, but the moment you leave the city you are in Waterland: dikes, ditches, cows and a horizon that holds nothing back. That contrast is pleasant. In one evening you can have both the calm of the polder and the ease of the big city.

For me it means little travel time, so a date here is easy to schedule, midweek too, and at short notice when my calendar allows.

What we can do here

The Koemarkt with the terraces around it, the harbor, the quay along the Noordhollandsch Kanaal. Or out the other way: Ilpendam, Broek in Waterland, the dike toward Edam. A stretch of cycling or walking along the water works well here, and it talks a good deal easier than sitting across a table from each other.

And as always: it does not have to. Sitting somewhere quiet straight away is just as good a start, especially if you notice the run-up is mostly making you nervous.

Discreet in a city where people know each other

Purmerend has the size of a city and the social structure of a village. People know each other from the club, from school, from years back. For some women that is reason not to meet at home, and that is a sensible weighing.

Van der Valk Purmerend sits on the edge of the city with its own parking lot, and that works well in practice. If you do want home, I keep to your rules: where I park, what time I come, how I come in and what I say if anyone is watching. Do say it in advance, however small the detail seems.

Who I come to Purmerend for

For the woman who has been married for years and can discuss with no one what she misses. For the woman who lies alone in bed again after a divorce and notices how hard that lands. For the widow who feels guilty that her body still wants something. For the woman who has never experienced anything and wonders whether it is too late for that now. It is not.

I do not judge, I assume nothing and I do nothing you have not asked for yourself. More about what is possible is on my services.

Practical

Travel costs here are modest and you hear them in advance. No surcharge for evening, night, weekend or holiday, no extra cost if you book as a couple. Further practical questions? See the frequently asked questions.

How a first date goes

At the start it is no more than a little writing. I ask on, you ask on, and somewhere in between it becomes clear. Phoning works too, if typing feels too distant. If you would first like a coffee without anything further happening, we do that. It is not a detour but simply a good start.

The day itself starts calmly. We begin seated and talking; what comes after, you decide. For most women that first stretch lasts longer than they had reckoned beforehand. That is not lost time; that is where it lies.

Afterward you hear nothing more from me unless you want to. No little “how was it” message, no reminder half a year on.

What it is not

It is not an agency with a catalog. There is no go-between between us: from your first message you are dealing with me, and I am also the one who comes. No list of acts is ticked off in advance and there is no script.

And it is not a test you have to pass. You do not have to resemble someone off the internet, you do not have to prove anything, and there is no need for apologies: not for your body, not for your age, not for what you want.

The first time

Almost everyone is tense the first time, and that is how it should be. What takes the tension away is knowing what is coming, so we talk it all through in advance: where we see each other, what time, how I come in, and what will and will not happen.

And nothing has to. A first date that consists of talking and an embrace is a full date. For many women that is exactly enough the first time.

How it starts

Send me a message with where you are and roughly what you are looking for. Short is fine: two sentences. I usually answer within a day, and after that we set the pace together. Calling first is fine, a coffee first is fine too.

Get in touch, and we will feel for ourselves whether there is a click.