Gigolo in Hoorn

Hoorn at the end of the afternoon

The old harbor of Hoorn is at its best when the light is low. The Hoofdtoren, the masts, the water lapping against the quay, and then those facades on the Veermanskade that have stood there for four hundred years. It is one of those places where a walk slows down on its own, and that is exactly what you want when you are nervous.

From Amsterdam I am there in about three quarters of an hour. Perfectly doable, midweek too, though I prefer to plan West Friesland a week or so ahead so the evening does not get tight.

What we can do together

Walking along the Markermeer. The Westfries Museum when it rains. Eating somewhere by the harbor where no one is in a hurry. Or driving on to Enkhuizen or Medemblik, because that extra quarter of an hour gets you a completely different little town.

And if you would rather do none of that, that is entirely fine. A good share of the dates I make simply begin behind a closed door, with tea and a conversation that only gets to the point after half an hour.

Discretion in West Friesland

This is a region where people know each other. Not in a stifling way, but the chance of running into someone in Hoorn whose face you know is simply higher than in Amsterdam. I work around that.

I arrive like someone who belongs. No flowers, no loud greeting, no car that makes your neighbors look twice. If you would rather meet at a hotel than at home, that is a fine choice. There are good options nearby, among them toward Purmerend and Akersloot, and otherwise I think along with you.

Who I come here for

For women who are married and have not been touched with attention in years. Also for women who stand alone since their partner fell away, and who notice that grief and desire can exist at the same time. For women who, after a divorce, want to do something for themselves again for the first time without it having to become a relationship right away.

And for couples who want to try something new together. Everything I do is on my services; what it becomes in your case, we decide together and not in advance off a list.

An evening or a night

An evening works well here, but West Friesland lends itself to something longer. If the date runs on into the morning, the travel time disappears entirely against the time we have together, and you notice the difference: the first hours are usually about settling in, and only after that does it really ease.

If you are unsure about the length, take the wider option. Making it shorter is always possible; adding an hour exactly when it starts to feel good rarely works.

Practical

Travel costs depend on the distance and you hear them in advance, before anything is fixed. There are no surcharges for the evening, the night, the weekend or holidays, and a date as a couple costs no extra. If you plan a night, I have more room in my time here anyway than on a short evening.

How a first date goes

First we write a little. I ask some questions, you ask some questions, and somewhere in that conversation you feel for yourself whether it fits. A phone call first works just as well. If you would rather start with only a conversation somewhere, we do that. It happens regularly and it is a fine way to begin.

On the day itself we take our time. Sitting, talking, and beyond that only at your signal. That first stretch lasts longer for most women than they had reckoned beforehand, and that is exactly right.

Afterward you hear nothing, unless you are the first. No “how was it” message, no reminder a few months later.

What you can expect from me

On time, well groomed, no hurry. I listen without steering anywhere and nothing you tell me or ask throws me. You set the speed, even if it changes halfway. Changing your mind is no problem. About you I stay silent, today and a year from now.

How it starts

With a message. Where you are, what you are looking for, when you would like to. Nothing more is needed. I usually answer within a day, and then we go on at your pace: texting, calling, or first a coffee with no obligation.

Get in touch and we will find out whether there is a click.