Gigolo in Hilversum

Why Het Gooi calls for care

Hilversum and the towns around it are beautiful, green and well off, and everyone knows everyone. In the media world above all, but also in the villa districts, at the hockey club and at the school. Of the women who write to me from here, the first question is almost never what I do. It is how I make sure no one notices.

Fair enough. So that is where I start. I do not turn up in a car that stands out or with flowers at the door. I park where you want me to park, even if that is a street away. I have a story ready in case anyone asks who I am, and you decide what that story is. And I discuss you with no one, not with friends, not with other clients, ever.

What we can do here

Het Gooi is one of the finest walking areas in the Randstad. The Zuiderheide, the Spanderswoud, the Corversbos. Within ten minutes you have walked clear of the inhabited world. In autumn it is almost too beautiful to describe, and it is exactly the kind of setting where a conversation gets going on its own.

In Hilversum itself there is Dudok’s architecture, the Institute for Sound and Vision when it rains, and plenty of quiet places to eat. But none of that is required. Many dates here go straight to a hotel or to a house where the rest of the family is away that week.

Who I come to Hilversum for

For women with a busy life and little room for themselves. Women with a partner who is away a lot, or who is there but stopped looking long ago. Women who are successful at work and feel, because of it, that they are not allowed to be vulnerable anywhere.

I have a background as a psychotherapist. That does not turn a date with me into a session. Far from it. But it does mean I listen well and there is room for whatever comes with you. Sometimes the first time is mostly talking. That is not a failed date, that is a good start. See my services for the further possibilities.

Where we meet

Home works if you live where no one is watching, but in Het Gooi many women choose a hotel. Preferably just outside their own town. That is a sensible choice and I am glad to think it through with you. Amsterdam is half an hour away and unbeatable for anonymity; Amersfoort or Utrecht work well too if you would rather arrange nothing here.

Practical

From Amsterdam, Hilversum is a short half hour. Travel costs are limited and you hear them in advance. There are no surcharges for evening, night, weekend or holiday, and booking as a couple costs nothing extra. Anything else involved is on the frequently asked questions.

What women here ask most

Whether I work with a confidentiality agreement. I can, if that puts you at ease, but in practice the discretion sits mostly in how I work: I keep no client list, I keep no messages longer than needed, and I have no colleagues to share anything with.

Whether I ever run into someone I know. It happens, in a country this size. My answer is simple then: I greet no one first, and if you speak to me I am whoever you say I am.

Whether this is something for women who “do not need it”. That question often comes from women with a good life, a good job and a partner. And yes. That is exactly the group that writes to me most.

What you can expect from me

Punctual and well turned out; you do not have to think about that. Listening is the bulk of it; pushing is not part of it. Nothing you tell me or ask throws me. The pace is yours, and it may shift along the way. And afterward you hear nothing more from me unless you want to.

How it starts

A short message is enough: where you are, what you are looking for, when you would like to. You usually hear something back the same day. If you would rather a voice than a screen, we call. If you would first like a coffee without anything happening afterward, that is completely fine.

Send me a message and we will look calmly at what fits.