Gigolo in Amstelveen

Almost home

Amstelveen borders Amsterdam and I live on that side of the city. For me a date here is as easy as a date in De Pijp. No travel time worth mentioning, barely any travel costs, and usually room in the calendar at short notice.

For you the location works nicely too. You’re in a quiet, green municipality, but you’re in the centre of Amsterdam within fifteen minutes if you’d rather meet there. Many women from Amstelveen choose that, not because it’s impossible here, but because the anonymity of the big city feels good.

Green as a backdrop

The Amsterdamse Bos practically begins in your back garden, and it’s one of the loveliest places in the Randstad to walk without running into anyone you know. De Poel at sunset. Thijsse’s Hof, small and still. And if you like art, the Cobra Museum is a fine reason to start somewhere without the evening turning heavy at once.

For many women a walk like that is exactly the right warm-up. You walk side by side instead of across from each other, and that makes talking suddenly easy. What happens after that you decide yourself, even if halfway you decide you’d rather just keep walking another hour.

What I come across here

Amstelveen is a municipality of families, expats and people who want it quiet. I see that back in the questions I get. Women who are married and can talk to no one about it. Some who travel a lot for work and at home have really no one. And women who stayed behind in a big house after a divorce and find that the silence after eight in the evening lands hard.

I have a background as a psychotherapist, and you notice it mostly in this. Nothing throws me and I assume nothing. Whatever you bring in the way of doubt or longing is allowed to be there, even when it’s messy. See my services for the forms it can take.

At home or elsewhere

Your place is possible, certainly in a flat where the hallway is empty and no one watches the clock. If in doubt, a hotel is more comfortable. In Amstelveen itself you have options, and in Amsterdam many more.

I arrive the way you want. Dressed discreetly, no flowers, and if you’d rather we meet somewhere else and go on together after that, we do that. I park where you want me to park.

In practice

Travel costs here amount to little and you hear them beforehand. Surcharges for the weekend, the evening or the night don’t exist with me, and a date for two costs no extra. Whatever else you want to know about how it works in practice is in the frequently asked questions.

How a first date goes

At the start it’s no more than a bit of writing. A few questions from both sides, and then you usually know. If that goes well, we plan something: a time, a place, and a clear picture of what will happen.

On the day itself I never get straight to the point. First we sit down and talk. The rest follows only when you say so. For many women that first stretch lasts longer than they’d thought beforehand, and that is exactly right. There’s no clock ticking in the sense that something has to have happened before the time is up.

Afterward no message comes, unless you want one. No little “how was it” text or newsletter, and no reminder half a year later.

What it is not

It isn’t an agency with a catalogue where you pick someone. There’s no middleman between us. From your first message you’re talking to me, and I’m also the one who comes. There’s no list of acts ticked off in advance and no script to work through.

Nothing is asked of you in terms of ability or nerve. You don’t have to look like someone on the internet. You don’t have to perform, and there’s nothing to apologize for.

Getting started

A message is enough. Who you are, where you are, roughly what you’re looking for and when you could. I usually answer within a day, and after that we go on at your pace. A coffee first with no obligation is fine too.

Send me a message and we’ll see together what fits.