Gigolo in Helmond

Next to the big neighbour

Helmond is fifteen minutes from Eindhoven and has always stood a little in its shadow. The city has an industrial past of textiles and metal, a castle used simply as the town hall, and in recent years a centre that has been seriously done up.

That closeness works in your favour. If you live in Helmond and would rather not meet in your own city, you are in Eindhoven in twenty minutes, where nobody knows you.

What we can do together

The Kasteel van Helmond with its moat, and the museum inside it. The Zuid-Willemsvaart, where you walk along the water. The Warande, an old estate wood on the edge of the city. And the Brainport industry over on the Eindhoven side, if you like architecture.

A little further on lie the Peel and the Groote Peel area. Raised bog, quiet and birds, half an hour’s drive away.

Who I come here for

For women in a marriage where touch became habit rather than attention years ago. For women who stayed in the same neighbourhood after a divorce. Widows, who find that longing and grief do not rule each other out. And for women who work shifts and have a life that is not set up for dates.

For couples too. The services page sets out what is possible then.

Discretion in Brabant

Brabant is sociable, and most of the time that is good. For this kind of date it calls for care, because people know each other through the club, work or the carnival society.

I arrive quietly. No flowers, no loud greeting on the pavement, and I park where you want, even if that is by a shopping centre further off. If someone asks who I am, I stick to the story you came up with.

How a first date goes

First we write. A few messages back and forth in which I ask what I need to know and you ask what you want to know, and somewhere in there you sense whether this fits. Calling is fine too. And if you want a coffee first in the done-up centre with nothing coming of it, then that is the plan.

On the day itself nothing goes fast. We sit first, we talk first, and only when you are ready does the rest follow. For almost everyone that first part runs over, and that time is well spent.

Afterwards it stays quiet on my side, unless you want otherwise.

Agreements about money

Before you commit to anything you know the whole picture. What we do, how many hours, what it costs, and which travel costs come with a trip to Helmond. Nothing is added on afterwards. I have no evening, night, weekend or public-holiday rate, and booking together costs the same as alone.

For couples

Some of the messages come from couples. The reason varies. For one something has changed physically, for another it is curiosity, for yet another there is a fantasy that has been spoken aloud for years without anyone taking a step.

How it looks is your choice. Being there, joining in, or staying in the next room. What I ask is that the conversation about it has really happened and that each of you can stop it at any moment. Halfway through the evening still. For two people you pay me the same as for one.

What it is not

There is no agency and no catalogue to pick someone from. You write to me, I write back myself, and I am also the one who rings the bell. Nothing gets ticked off in advance and there is no script behind it.

It is not a test you have to pass either. You do not have to look like someone from the internet, you do not have to prove anything, and no apologies are needed anywhere.

The first time

Almost everyone is tense the first time. That is part of it and it settles on its own. What helps most is knowing exactly how it will go, so we talk that through beforehand. The place, the time, how I come in, and what does and does not happen.

And nothing has to happen. A first date made of talking and an embrace is a whole date. For some of the women that is exactly enough, and only a second time does it go further.

This is how it starts

Send a message saying where you are and which moment you have in mind. From Amsterdam, Helmond is about an hour and a half, so plan it a week or two ahead.