Gigolo in Leeuwarden

The one real city in Friesland

Leeuwarden has a hundred and thirty thousand residents, which makes it by far the largest place in the province. That means something practical: anyone who lives in Friesland and would rather not meet in their own village almost always ends up here. And in a city this size, nobody notices who is walking with whom.

From Amsterdam it’s about two hours’ drive. Too far for a short evening, just right for a night.

What we can do together

The Oldehove, the tower that leans and was never finished, with a view over the whole city. The Fries Museum on the Wilhelminaplein. The canals and the Prinsentuin. And the food here can be surprisingly good, with a handful of places that hold their own against the Randstad.

Outside the city: the Frisian lakes half an hour away, the Wadden dike at Holwerd, and the Alde Feanen national park. For a walk or a boat trip before the evening begins, that is hard to beat.

Discretion in Friesland

The Frisian villages are small and close-knit. In a village people notice who comes and goes, who has visitors, and which car doesn’t belong. That is exactly why a lot of women choose to meet in Leeuwarden rather than at home.

If you do it at home anyway, I keep to your rules: parking where you want me to, even if that means the edge of the village and I walk the last stretch. No flowers, no loud greeting on the doorstep, no ringing twice. And if anyone asks who I am, I stick exactly to the story you came up with.

Who I come here for

For married women who haven’t felt a hand rest on their back with real attention in years. Just as much for divorced women who never left their village. For widows, in whom grief and longing run through one another. And for women who have lived their whole lives in a community where there is no one to talk to about this.

And for two people who want to share this together. What’s possible is set out under my services, from simply being together to an erotic overnight where the distance actually works in your favour.

How a first date goes

First we write. I ask a few things, you ask a few things, and in that back and forth you notice for yourself whether this fits. Calling is fine. And if you’d rather meet once, calmly, with nothing more happening that day, then that’s the plan.

On the day itself it goes slowly. First sitting, first talking, and only when you’re ready does the rest come. Once you’re home again, you hear nothing more from me unless you want to.

What we agree about money

Before there’s a date you know everything: what we do, how long, what it costs, and which travel costs come with a two-hour drive. Nothing is added afterward. No surcharge for the evening, the night, the weekend or a public holiday, and booking together costs the same as alone.

Doubts I often hear

“Isn’t it strange to pay for this?” You pay for time, attention and someone who knows his trade. You do the same at a physiotherapist or a hairdresser, only there everyone talks about it openly.

“Aren’t I too old for this?” No, and oddly enough young women ask it just as often. There are women in their twenties and women well past seventy. Too old doesn’t exist here.

“What if there’s no click?” Usually we know that before there’s a date. Then we leave it.

Changing your mind is allowed

Halfway through as well, and also when you’d set aside a whole evening for it. Nothing goes wrong then, and for me it’s no problem.

In practice a date often runs differently than we’d pictured. Sometimes calmer, sometimes not. I steer toward nothing and have no stake in what does or doesn’t happen, as long as you feel good about it.

For couples

Some of the messages come from couples. The reason varies: something has changed physically, or there’s curiosity, or there’s a fantasy that has been talked about for years without anything happening.

What it becomes is up to you: sitting in, joining in, or waiting in the next room. My condition is that the conversation about it has really happened and that each of you can stop it at any moment. On the way there too. For two people you pay the same as for one.

This is how it starts

Send me a message with where you are and when it would suit. You usually have an answer within a day.