Gigolo in Erfurt

A bridge with houses on it

The Krämerbrücke in Erfurt is the longest inhabited bridge in Europe: houses stand on both sides, so you walk across it without noticing you’re crossing a river. That’s typical of the city, which came through the war largely intact and so has a medieval heart that’s real and not rebuilt.

From Amsterdam it’s about five and a half hours by car. This becomes a stay of a night or two days.

What we can do together

The Krämerbrücke with the little shops on it. The cathedral and the Severikirche, standing together on a flight of steps above the square. The Augustinian monastery where Luther was a monk. And the Petersberg, the citadel above the city, with a view over all the roofs.

Weimar is twenty minutes away and, for its size, carries an absurd cultural weight: Goethe, Schiller, Bauhaus. For a day together it’s a wonderful trip out.

Further south the Thuringian Forest begins, with the Rennsteig running straight through it.

Language

German, English or Dutch. Outside the tourist core German is handier, and I just speak it.

Who I come here for

For women who are married and have long missed what no longer finds words at home. For women starting over after a divorce and unsure where to pick things up.

Widows, startled by what their body is signalling again. And plenty of women from the smaller places in Thuringia, where this simply isn’t talked about.

As a pair it works too. See my services.

Practical

Five and a half hours’ drive from Amsterdam. What that means in travel costs you hear before a date is fixed, and nothing gets added on top afterward.

No surcharge for the night, the weekend or a public holiday, and booking as a pair costs the same as on your own. For several days a deposit comes into it, because by then something’s already reserved in my name.

What you can expect from me

On time, well turned out, and with nothing else in the calendar those days. I listen without pushing you one way, and there’s very little I haven’t heard before.

Where you draw a line it stays, even if in the moment you want to move it yourself.

Discretion in practice

I work alone: no agency, no middleman, no colleague reading along, no file your name ends up in. Messages disappear as soon as they’re no longer needed.

Erfurt is small enough that you know people there. I greet no one first, and if you speak to me, I’m whoever you say I am at that moment. Work that out beforehand, so you don’t have to invent anything on the spot.

How a first meeting goes

First a few messages back and forth. A few questions go each way, and somewhere in that conversation you know whether you want to go on. The phone works too.

We keep the first few hours open, without a plan. For almost everyone that takes longer than expected, and it makes everything after it easier.

After that it stays quiet on my side, unless you want otherwise.

Changing your mind is fine

Along the way too, and even if a weekend was already blocked out for it. No problem, and certainly no failure.

Meetings regularly go differently than planned. Where it heads is all the same to me, as long as you’re happy with it.

The first time

Almost everyone is tense the first time. What settles it is that everything’s been talked through beforehand: the place, the hour, my arrival, and your line.

And nothing has to happen. Talking and an arm around you is a full first meeting.

This is how it starts

Write to me with where you are and which week or weekend you’re thinking of. If you want Weimar in the plan, just let me know.