Glossary
YKINMKBYKIOK
The full mouthful of letters behind YKINMK, which says the 'and that's fine' part out loud.
What is ykinmkbykiok?
YKINMKBYKIOK stands for your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok. It is the full, spoken-out version of YKINMK. The second half, “but your kink is ok,” says out loud what the short form only implies: no judgment.
| Full phrase | your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok |
| Short form | YKINMK |
| Literally | your kink is not my kink, but your kink is okay |
| Category | a rule of conduct and an attitude, not an act |
| Origin | English-speaking kink and fandom corners, the 1990s |
Where ykinmkbykiok comes from
The full form and the abbreviation come from the same corner and the same time; the origin is covered at YKINMK. Here too: under this name there is no scientific literature, it is community jargon. The dictionary Wiktionary describes the term as “an acknowledgement that people have different sexual preferences.”
Why people use the long form
The extra piece takes away the ambiguity. “Not my kink” still sounds to some ears like a dig, and “but your kink is ok” closes that door again. The same boundary as with the short form still holds: it is a statement about taste, not a free pass that makes consent unnecessary.
Where this fits on this site
With me you don’t have to hold back out of fear of judgment. What you are looking for is exactly the conversation. If you want to talk about it calmly, take a look at my services or send me a message with no strings attached.
Sources
- YKINMKBYKIOK. Wiktionary. Supplies the meaning “initialism of your kink is not my kink, but your kink is OK: an acknowledgement that people have different sexual preferences.”
Related terms
- YKINMK. The short form that YKINMKBYKIOK is the fully spoken-out version of.
- Kinkshaming. The judgment this statement sets out to disprove.
- Consent. The boundary that even the long form does not replace.
- Kink-friendly. The attitude this statement sums up in five words.
- Vanilla. Often exactly someone else’s kink that is not yours, and that is okay.
Frequently asked questions
What people still ask about ykinmkbykiok.
What is ykinmkbykiok?
YKINMKBYKIOK stands for your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok. It is the full, spoken-out version of YKINMK, with the “and that’s fine” part spelled out at the end.
Who can you ask about ykinmkbykiok?
Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and a background as a psychotherapist. Whatever you call it, your preference is not a problem for him, it is the conversation itself. You can reach him with no strings attached through the contact form or first free chat.
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