Glossary
Sexual care
Sexual services for people with a disability, usually arranged through an intermediary.
What is sexual care?
Sexual care is sexual services for people with a disability or chronic condition, usually arranged through an intermediary. It recognizes that sex is an important human need, even when a physical or intellectual disability does not make that a given. Sexual care is a specific branch of the broader sexual services.
| In Dutch | sekszorg |
| Also known as | sex care |
| For whom | people with a disability or chronic condition |
| How arranged | through an intermediary such as Stichting SAR or Flekszorg |
| Broader term | sexual services |
| Falls under | sex work |
How sexual care works
Sexual care starts from a simple premise. According to Flekszorg, sex is an important human need, one that a physical, intellectual, or psychological disability does not make self-evident. An intermediary then brings supply and demand together. Stichting SAR, for instance, mediates between people with a physical or intellectual disability and professionals who provide intimacy and sex for payment. The care itself is done by separate professionals, not by the person’s own carer, and within clear agreements.
Why sexual care exists
The reason is access to intimacy. For the client, sexual care can break through sexual frustration and raise quality of life, precisely because it serves a need that otherwise stays unmet. For the people around them, it lifts a taboo that went unspoken for a long time. What it is not: sexual care is not a task of the person’s own care institution and not a casual favor, but arranged, paid services with consent as the floor. The full legal picture, including the personal-budget rules, is on sexual services.
Where this fits on this site
My work as a gigolo is aimed at women and couples, not at care. If your question really lies in sexual care, an organization like SAR or Flekszorg is the right address, and I’m glad to point you there. Curious what I do offer? Take a look at my services. If you have a question, feel free to ask it first. That commits you to nothing.
Sources
- Flekszorg. Gives that sexual care starts from the premise that sex is an important human need, one a disability does not make self-evident.
- Stichting SAR. Gives that SAR mediates between people with a physical or intellectual disability and professionals who provide intimacy and sex for payment.
Related terms
- Sexual services. The broader term, with the full legal and practical picture.
- Sex work. The overarching concept for paid intimacy.
- Consent. Willingness and consent are the hard floor in sexual care too.
Frequently asked questions
Questions about this term
What is sexual care?
Sexual care is sexual services for people with a disability or chronic condition, usually arranged through an intermediary. It recognizes that sex is an important human need, even when a physical or intellectual disability does not make that a given. It is a specific branch of the broader sexual services.
How do you arrange sexual care?
Sexual care runs through an intermediary, such as Stichting SAR or Flekszorg, which brings supply and demand together. The care itself is done by separate professionals, not by the person’s own carer, and within clear agreements. The full legal picture, including the rules around the personal budget, is on sexual services.
Who can you turn to for sexual care?
For sexual care with a disability, specialized intermediaries like Stichting SAR and Flekszorg are the right address. As for me, I’m Victor, a gigolo for women and couples, not a care provider; if your question is in the care sphere, I’ll point you there. Curious what I do offer? That can be with no obligation or through free chat.
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Still have questions about sexual care?
I'm Victor, a gigolo for women and couples, not a care provider. If your question is about sexual care for a disability, I'll point you to SAR or Flekszorg. Curious what I do offer? Send me a message, and I'll text you back whenever suits you.