Glossary
Rimming
A loanword that never made the dictionary, yet everyone uses it.
What is rimming?
Rimming is oral stimulation of the anus: licking, kissing, running the tongue along the rim. It is also called a rimjob, and the medical term is anilingus. In Dutch, the loanword rimmen is the word people actually use and type. The act itself is described in more detail on rimjob.
| Also known as | rimjob, rimming |
| Medical term | anilingus |
| In the Dutch dictionary | no, the Algemeen Nederlands Woordenboek has no entry for rimmen |
A word without a dictionary entry
Look up rimmen in the Algemeen Nederlands Woordenboek of the Instituut voor de Nederlandse Taal and you get exactly one line back: this article isn’t in it. No entry, no meaning, no citation.
And yet it is not a fringe word. People use it and type it all the time, even while the lexicography still waits.
I find that telling. It is the exact reverse of most kink words: those get written down first and done afterward.
What you can do yourself
- Just use the word. If you can’t say it, you can’t make an agreement about it either.
- Take it slow and talk it through beforehand, certainly when you don’t know someone well yet.
- Skip it with stomach trouble, yours or the other person’s. That is the one hard rule here.
More on rimming
The full explanation is on rimjob, with the figures on how often it happens and the origin of the English word. Beyond that, anal sex explains what penetration asks for. If you want to do it once with the calm and the agreements in place, that belongs with an intimate togetherness.
Sources
- rimmen. Algemeen Nederlands Woordenboek, Instituut voor de Nederlandse Taal, consulted August 4, 2026. The ANW is the scholarly dictionary of contemporary Dutch. Used here is the result itself: the entry rimmen is absent (“sorry, this article is not (yet) in the ANW”), which on this page is used only as a statement about the lexicographical status of the word and not as a statement about its use.
Related terms
Rimming is one word from a small Dutch-English pair. The rest of the neighborhood is about the same spot.
Frequently asked questions
Three questions about the word rimming.
Is the Dutch word rimmen in the dictionary?
No. The Algemeen Nederlands Woordenboek of the Instituut voor de Nederlandse Taal returns one line for the entry rimmen: this article isn’t in it. Strikingly, the RIVM does use the word. The LCI guideline on shigellosis literally lists, among the risk factors, “(in)direct oral-anal contact (such as rimming).”
Who can you turn to with questions about rimming?
Victor, a gigolo with twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and trained as a psychotherapist. He uses the word you use and won’t talk around it. Ask your question through the contact form or start with a free chat.
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Just say it the way you call it
I'm Victor. You don't have to hunt for a polite word for it, and you don't have to talk around it. Write me what you mean, and I'll tell you honestly what works and what doesn't.
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