Gigolo in Bruges

A city that asks for time

Bruges is small, old and fully protected. The whole centre is on the World Heritage list, and rightly so. Canals with little bridges over them, façades that have stood for five hundred years, and a Belfry you can climb.

During the day it is busy with day-trippers. Early in the morning and after about six in the evening the city suddenly belongs to the people who are there, and then it is one of the most beautiful places in Europe to walk together.

That is exactly why Bruges works better as an overnight stay than as an evening visit.

What we can do together

A boat trip along the canals, short but worth it. The Markt and the Burg. The Begijnhof with its poplars, where it is utterly quiet. The Minnewater. And you can eat superbly here, as long as you walk a street beyond the tourist core.

Outside the city the coast is a quarter of an hour away. Zeebrugge, Blankenberge, and farther along De Haan with its belle époque villas.

Language

Dutch. English and German work too. French does not.

Who I come here for

For women who are married and have long missed what no longer finds words at home. For women who plan two days for themselves after a loss or a divorce, somewhere no one knows them, and who do not have to explain that to anyone around them.

Women after a death. And couples who want to experience something on neutral ground, precisely because it is neutral here.

The options are on my services.

Discretion in a small city

Bruges has a hundred and twenty thousand inhabitants and a centre that feels much smaller. That means you can run into people. I greet no one first, I do not walk arm in arm with you across the Markt if you would rather not, and whatever we agree about how we behave in public, I hold to it.

For an overnight stay an apartment or a small hotel outside the centre is often more comfortable than an address right on the Markt.

Practical

Three hours from Amsterdam. You hear the travel costs that come with it before we fix anything. The amount does not move after that, and nothing is added later.

I charge nothing extra for a Saturday, a night or a holiday, and booking together costs the same as alone. Do reserve in time. In season and on weekends Bruges is packed.

For couples

With couples the first conversation is usually not about what is possible, but about whether it is wise. My yardstick is simple. If one of the two of you mainly goes along to please the other, I notice, and then we do not do it.

If there is a real conversation underneath, there is room enough. Watching, joining in, or just staying nearby. Either of you can stop it at any moment, even once we are underway, and the price does not change for it.

What you can expect from me

On time, well groomed, and without the impatience of someone who has to be somewhere afterward. I listen without pushing a direction, and there is very little I have not heard before.

Where you draw a line, that line stays, even at the moment when you want to move it yourself in the heat of it. You appear in no conversation of mine. Not with friends, not later, never.

Discretion in practice

There is no agency and no colleague reading along. There is no record you end up in either. Messages go once they are no longer needed.

I arrive like an ordinary guest. No flowers in hand, no greeting the street turns to look at, and the car stays where you want it. If you meet someone in the hallway you recognise, I am who you say I am at that moment. Think of it beforehand, and you have nothing to invent on the spot.

What I do not do

Rushing you. Playing a role. Taking a direction just because it is the usual one. Reaching out again when you have not asked me to.

I also do not go along with the idea that this is something dirty. This work has existed as long as people have, it is simply allowed here, and the women who book me have, in the vast majority, a perfectly ordinary life with a perfectly ordinary schedule.

The first time

Almost everyone is tense the first time, and that is exactly as it should be. What helps most is knowing what is going to happen. Where, what time, how I arrive, and what does not happen.

And nothing has to. Talking and an arm around you is a full first date. For some of the women that is exactly what they were looking for, and only a second time does it go further.

This is how it starts

Send me a message with which period you have in mind. For an overnight stay I am glad to help think about the place.