Questions about gigolo prices

A gigolo in the Netherlands costs roughly €100 to €500 an hour: €100 to €150 with budget providers, €200 to €300 mid-range, €300 to €500 premium. Book through an agency and a brokerage fee comes on top. With me it’s €250 an hour, minimum two hours. So €500 for a first date.

That’s not something I can decide for you, and I’m not going to talk you into it. What I can tell you: almost every woman who books me spent weeks doubting first. Not about whether she wanted it, but about the amount. What you get isn’t an hour of sex. It’s my full attention, preparation, a talk about your limits, and aftercare afterward. Not sure? Then start by texting. It costs nothing and commits you to nothing.

Because the run-up only happens once. The contact beforehand, the preparation, the trip there and back: that costs the same for two hours as it does for a whole day. Book more hours in a row and I spread those fixed costs over more time, so the price per hour drops. For a full day you pay around €140 an hour instead of €250.

Yes, if I come to you. The amount depends on your province: North Holland €75, Utrecht and South Holland €150, Flevoland, Friesland, Gelderland, North Brabant and Zeeland €225, Drenthe, Groningen and Overijssel €300, Limburg €375. Abroad on request. Parking I charge separately if there is any. So you know the exact amount before you say yes. No surprises about the cost during or afterward.

No. You pay for the time, not per person, so a meeting for two costs exactly the same as on your own. Plenty of agencies do charge a couple extra, and they rarely put that up front. With me nothing changes about the price, and there’s no second intake call or extra appointment either.

No. The rate is the rate, on a Saturday night, on New Year’s Eve or at three in the morning. There’s no surcharge for booking as a couple either. The only thing that gets added is the travel cost, and parking if there is any.

At the start of the date, when we see each other. You can pay cash in euros, transfer through my coaching company (your bank statement only says “coaching”), or in Bitcoin if you want to stay completely anonymous. When you first make a request, you pay nothing yet.

Yes. If you pay by bank, it goes through my coaching company and your statement says “coaching”. If you want no trace at all, pay cash or in Bitcoin. I don’t ask you to share your payment details and I don’t keep them.

To reserve, you don’t have to transfer anything in advance. You pay at the start of the date, when we see each other. When you book, you pay nothing yet.

Up to 24 hours before the date, the first cancellation is free. Inside that window, I charge part of the amount, rising as it gets closer to the date. For multi-day arrangements and bookings abroad, separate terms apply, because tickets and hotels have already been booked by then. The full arrangement is in the terms and conditions.

No. Two hours is the minimum, and even that is short. You arrive, you’re nervous, you relax, and then you come back down again. In less time it turns rushed, and that helps no one. Want to get to know me first without a whole date? Just call or text, it costs you nothing.

Partly. Two hours for €500 is the minimum and I don’t go below it. We can keep it to that minimum, though, or pick a moment where you’re not paying travel costs across four provinces. Be careful with strikingly cheap providers: under €100 an hour, the risk of a scam or an unsafe date is real.

A bit of both, really. The hourly rate is €250, but the fixed durations are cheaper: €500 for two hours, €950 for half a day, €2,500 for an evening and night, €3,400 for a full day. You don’t have to fit into a package; if you want seven hours, I charge by the length of the stay.

No. What we do doesn’t change the price; only how long we do it. A BDSM date, a tantra massage or a first time falls within the normal rate. Something only gets added when someone gets added: a second person for a threesome brings its own costs. We talk that through beforehand, with amounts.

You choose. Cash is the most anonymous: no statement, nothing to trace back. By bank it runs through my coaching company, so the description only says “coaching”. Bitcoin works too if you want no trace at all. I never ask for your payment details and I don’t keep them; there’s no customer database.

At the start, not in advance. So at the beginning of the date, when we see each other, not transferred days ahead to someone you’ve never spoken to. That distinction is exactly what scams lean on.

When you arrive, in the first few minutes. That part is businesslike for a moment, and that’s exactly why the rest of the evening isn’t: if the money has to come at the end, it hangs over everything the whole time. Just lay the cash down somewhere. I don’t count it while you stand there.

Yes, and that’s usually how it goes. You lay the envelope down when you arrive and that settles it. Nothing shows on your statement and there’s no transaction anyone can trace later. If you withdraw the money spread over a few days, no one notices that either.

Yes. A voucher I arrange just as discreetly as an ordinary booking: nothing gives away what it is or who it’s from, and the recipient decides for herself whether and when she uses it. There’s no expiry date on it. Handy for someone who buys it for herself but doesn’t know the moment yet.

You can, it’s never expected, but always really appreciated. The rate is complete, so there’s no need. If you’d like to bring something anyway, something you think suits me. Think of an exciting scent, good chocolate, and whatever little gift you pick, it’s always hugely appreciated.

No, that’s not odd, plenty of women feel that way at first. But the shame sits in the paying, not in what you want. You’re not paying me for affection, you’re paying for my time, my attention and the fact that I know what I’m doing. You pay a good physical therapist for that too, for the same kind of hours of skin on skin, and no one blinks at it. The only difference here is that it’s about intimacy. That makes it loaded, but not unjustified. And what happens in that hour is no less real because there’s a rate underneath it. If this keeps nagging at you, I wrote about it more honestly on Still not sure?.