For you, if your calendar is planned to the quarter hour
A gigolo for successful women with no time to waste
Choose well once, and then simply trust it. The way you handle everything.
Sound familiar?
Everything in your life runs at a high level. Except this
Hi, I’m Victor. I’ll keep it short, because your time is scarce.
A call with Singapore at seven, the board at nine. You outsourced whatever made sense a long time ago: someone for the house and an assistant who guards your calendar. Only this you still handle the old-fashioned way. Or really, you don’t handle it at all.
Because dating costs you more than it gives. The moment you mention what you do, his face changes. And the next morning there are three texts on your phone, asking why you haven’t replied.
Maybe you made a deal with yourself long ago: if I’m still single at forty, I’ll do this. Now that birthday is right around the corner. Or a colleague once slid a business card across the table to you, and it’s still tucked in the back of your wallet. Sometimes it’s simpler than that. A busy month, and the wish for something just for you that actually fits in your calendar.
Maybe this sounds familiar
His face when you say what you do
A minute ago it was fun. Then you mention your job title, and suddenly the man across from you starts competing.
Three texts before nine
The morning after an ordinary date. Plus the question of whether you’re mad.
A table for one
At the hotel on your business trip. Good food, and nobody to share it with.
The bonus in your account
You wonder what you actually treat yourself to. Besides more work.
The app, closed right away
A man looking for “no difficult women.” Got it.
An empty evening in your calendar
Your assistant spots it immediately. You don’t know yet what you want to do with it, except that for the first time in years you’d like to leave the office a few hours early.
Smart self-care, not a confession
You don’t have to explain anything here. You book a top coach when you want to improve, and a massage therapist when your back locks up. Choosing one good professional for intimacy too is actually pretty logical.
A paid date has one big advantage for you: you decide. Where, when, how long, and what. There’s no expectation of a relationship, and afterward nobody tries to wedge his way into your calendar.
By background I’m a psychotherapist, and I run my own business. Successful women don’t intimidate me, and I don’t compete either.
If nothing changes, you keep waiting for a man who can handle your success, and meanwhile the years go by. You can arrange this the way you arrange everything. With someone who is actually present, and with whom, for one evening, you don’t have to be the strong one.
An evening where you don't have to be anyone
Picture this: the spa in the afternoon, then a dinner where nobody asks what you do. Leave the reservation and the pace to me. For once you don’t have to be in charge of anything. (Unless that’s exactly what you want, of course.)
Sometimes it stays at the spa and dinner, and that’s exactly right. Sometimes you want more, like a boyfriend experience or an erotic overnight stay at your hotel. You can put your wishes on paper beforehand, or let things unfold from a first drink.
What you take with you is an evening without aftermath. No texts the next morning, just a good feeling. It’s over when it’s over. You go home satisfied, after an evening where a man adapted to you and treated you like a lady. What you earn never came up once.
Is it a business dinner or a gala you don’t want to arrive at alone? That’s on never arrive alone. If you’re deliberately planning a trip on your own, for your birthday or a long weekend, read gigolo while traveling.
Rather check something first?
One message with your question is enough. You’ll get a clear answer, without a sales pitch.
Why me
I’m in my early fifties, I have a PhD, I run my own business, and I wrote two books on psychology and health. So a conversation at your level is no problem, and your job title doesn’t scare me.
There’s no agency or catalog in between. You have one point of contact, from your first message to the date itself. I decide who I see, and not every request makes it.
Punctual and well groomed, that’s what you can expect from me. A date lasts at least two hours, so there’s time to arrive.
How it works
Arranged quickly and clearly
A message
What you're looking for, when, and where. Your assistant can handle the logistics.
Wishes and limits, with you
I always discuss those with you directly, never through someone else. Short, but thorough.
A concrete proposal
Day, time, length, and location. You fill in the consent form beforehand, so nothing is left to sort out on the spot.
The hotel of your choice
Here or abroad, I travel to you. For a few days as well, as an arrangement. Everything can be discussed, nothing is required!!
As your plus-one, if you like
Along to a business dinner, with who's there and how we know each other agreed on in advance.
A regular rhythm
If you liked it, it can come back. Every month or every other month, with the same agreements.
Discreet, even with a public profile
Your first name is enough
I don’t need to know your last name or your job title. Feel free to use a private number, so your work phone stays out of it.
No client file
I don’t keep our messages, and I don’t keep records on the women I see.
No texts afterward
I leave the first move to you. There’s only a next time if you want one.
No photo of me online
There’s no photo of me out there where I’m recognizable. Apart from our date, you’re a stranger to me.
A story agreed in advance
If you run into me somewhere, we both already know what to say. We settle that in advance.
Nothing that stands out on your statement
Cash is fine. By bank transfer it says coaching.
"Yes, but..."
- “Is this professional enough?” You get a clear answer, a concrete proposal, and a man who shows up on time. What I promise, I do.
- “My name can’t show up anywhere.” Your first name is enough, and you can pay in cash. Nothing gets left behind on my end.
- “Does it always have to start with dinner?” No. A two-hour date at your hotel works too. I just don’t do quickies.
- “A woman shouldn’t have to pay, right?” True, free dating exists. You just pay for it with your evenings, and with three texts the next morning.
- “Will he keep texting afterward?” No. I never message first.
- “Can my assistant arrange this?” The logistics, yes. Your wishes and limits I discuss with you.
- “Is he only doing this for the money?” I pick who I see myself, and far from every request gets a yes. The arrangement is business, the attention is real.
What women wrote after their date
My first experience with Victor is honestly hard to put into words. I'd say, woman, don't doubt, this man is safe and offers very high quality, not just in bed but precisely alongside it too. Victor is incredibly good at sensing you and putting you at ease with his soft accent, warm eyes and strong arms.
Victor is an attentive, intelligent man with a good sense of humor. His calm presence combined with his humor gives you a safe feeling. He senses your mood flawlessly and, in his own unique way, knows how to create a pleasant atmosphere. He respects his date, her boundaries and wishes.
Victor is a sweet, reliable man who has no hidden agenda and keeps to his agreements. I felt enormously at ease with him. On top of that, the personal contact via WhatsApp beforehand is also really nice, so that (especially for a first meeting) you're not immediately facing a complete stranger. Victor is wonderful to cuddle with.
Choose well, once
Send me a message with what you’re looking for and when. You’ll get a clear proposal back. I’m the only one who reads it.
Name the day you want in your first message and you’ll know quickly.
Frequently asked questions
What successful women often ask me
How fast do you reply, and how far in advance do I need to book?
I usually reply within a day. Whether it still works the same week depends on my schedule and on where you are, and for trips abroad a bit more time helps. Just send me your dates, and you’ll quickly hear whether it fits.
Can you come abroad?
Yes. I travel to your hotel, outside the Netherlands too. Travel and accommodation are included in the proposal, so you know where you stand beforehand.
Can you come along as my plus-one to a business dinner?
Yes. Beforehand we agree on who will be there, what you tell people about me, and how we know each other. At the table you won’t have to think about any of it.
What shows up on my bank statement?
If you pay by bank transfer, it says coaching. Paying in cash is also possible.
Do I need a long getting-to-know-you meeting first?
No. A short conversation about your wishes and limits is enough. If you’d like a drink or a coffee first, that’s fine too.
Can it become a recurring date?
Yes. Some women book every month or every other month, with the same agreements each time. That way you don’t have to explain anything again.
Will my name stay out of everything?
Yes. Your first name is enough, and I don’t keep our messages. The specifics about your data are on my privacy page.