Your experience with a gigolo, after our date

The afterglow… and growing from it

A date lasts one evening. But your pleasure keeps growing.

What happened only really sinks in after a day or two. That’s when you know which moment stayed with you, what you thought back to when you were alone, and what you actually still wanted to say.

Writing that down does more to you than you’d expect. Two things at once, really.

It holds on to the evening, so you can still reach it six months from now instead of being left with a vague, pleasant feeling. And it’s a run-up to the next time, because everything you tell me I use to make that one even nicer.

The afterglow is part of it, and this is its finest form. During the date you’re in the middle of it and it goes too fast to take everything in. Afterward you can reach it, at your own pace. Settle in for an evening with a cup of tea or a glass of wine and let it come by once more. That some women get turned on all over again is no side effect, it’s exactly the point. A moment you write out gets sharper instead of vaguer, and then you’ve also got it on a day when everything goes wrong.

You get words for something that had no name yet. A desire that stays nameless is one you can’t ask anyone about. Not me, and not a partner or someone you meet after this. Write it down once and it’s there. Next time it’s just a single sentence.

You meet yourself. Women discover things here about their body, about where exactly their arousal begins, about what they need to let themselves go. You don’t see that in the middle of the experience, because then you’re sitting too close to it.

You see what has shifted. What you now ask for without a second thought, you wouldn’t have dared a year ago. You only notice a difference like that if you’ve put down somewhere where you stood.

And it doesn’t stop there

What you write down doesn’t just hang between us. Maud said in her interview in &C that afterward she walked taller and started dressing more carefully, and that it made her a better mother to her daughter. In the reviews you see the same thing come back: feeling like a woman again, and daring to ask for something that couldn’t be said out loud before.

So it doesn’t end the moment I pull the door shut behind me. Honestly, most of it only really starts after you’ve let it settle and written it down.

The next time begins here

It’s my building material. What you liked, I build on. Where you wanted to stay longer, I stay longer. And that one question you didn’t dare to ask, I can open that up for you. The sharper I know where your pleasure sits and where your desires lie, the more precisely I can build them up.

That’s the difference between a second date and a first. The first time I still have to get to know you and read you while we’re together. The second time I already know where to be, and our time goes toward getting further instead of starting over. Some women add right away what they want to try next time. Do that. I remember it. This way every date becomes more special.

When that next time is, you decide. Next month, or a year from now. Or never, that’s fine too. When you’re ready, text or email me and we pick up the thread where we left it.

What you write stays between us. This is not a review and it goes nowhere on the site.

How you do this: take ten minutes for it, a day or two after our date. It’s fifteen questions, split over five short blocks. You don’t have to answer everything; take what stirs something and leave the rest. Even one answer is enough. Typing is fine, but a five-minute spoken voice message is often more honest and costs you half the time (you can text or email that to me). Say it the way you think it. Anything goes, nothing is weird. The more honest and the hornier you are, the better I get to know you, and the more fun the next time.