Glossary
Sex club
The umbrella term for the couples club, swingers club, and sauna club, each with its own house rules.
What is a sex club?
A sex club is a nightlife venue where guests can have sex with each other on the premises. In the Netherlands that is usually a couples club, swingers club, or sauna club, each with its own house rules. The difference from a brothel is that you have sex with other guests, not with sex workers.
| Also known as | sex-on-premises venue; in the Netherlands usually a couples club, swingers club, or sauna club |
| Category | a location for swinging and group sex |
| Difference from a brothel | you have sex with other guests, not with sex workers |
| On- or off-premises | on-premises has play rooms on site, off-premises only meeting and dancing |
| Cost | entry and sometimes membership, no payment per sexual act |
How a sex club works
You pay entry, sometimes a membership, and inside the house rules of that club apply. According to the encyclopedia, a sex club differs from a brothel in that guests only get the opportunity to have sex with other guests, not with sex workers. There is also a difference between on-premises clubs, with play rooms where you can have sex on site, and off-premises clubs, where you meet and dance but there is no room for sex.
Why people go to a sex club
The pull is a safe, marked-off place to do what cannot happen at home: meeting new people, watching or being watched, or sex with more than two. The Dutch couples club is described as a nightlife venue where couples meet and can carry out sexual acts. For a couple it is a way to swing together, for a single person a low-threshold way in. Every club is different. What a club does not arrange on its own is consent and safer sex. Those stay your responsibility, house rules or not. Read the rules beforehand, because every club has its own agreements about touching, condoms, and how you respect a no.
Where this fits on this site
A sex club is a place, not a service I provide. If you want to explore a world like that but would rather not go alone, the company of someone who is calm about it can make a difference. Curious what I do? Take a look at my services. You can ask your question first, with no obligation.
Sources
- Sex club. Wikipedia. Gives the definition of a sex club as a venue where guests have sex with other guests, the distinction from a brothel, and the difference between on-premises and off-premises clubs.
- Parenclub. Wikipedia. Gives the Dutch description of a couples club as a nightlife venue where couples meet and can carry out sexual acts.
Related terms
- Swinging. The practice of partner swapping and group sex that a sex club is the place for.
- Sauna club. The erotic-sauna version of the sex club, with wellness at its core.
- Voyeurism. Watching others, one of the reasons people seek out a club.
- Exhibitionism. Wanting to be watched, the other side of the same fun.
- Dogging. The public, outdoor version, against the closed room of a sex club.
Frequently asked questions
Questions about this term
What is a sex club?
A sex club is a nightlife venue where guests can have sex with each other on the premises, in the Netherlands usually a couples club, swingers club, or sauna club. Unlike in a brothel, you have sex with other guests there, not with sex workers.
What is the difference between a sex club and a brothel?
In a sex club you pay entry and sometimes membership, and you get the opportunity to have sex with other guests. In a brothel you pay for sex with a sex worker. A sex club runs on guests among themselves, then, not on paid sex.
Who can you turn to with questions about a sex club?
For the house rules of a specific sex club, your best bet is to call the club itself. I’m Victor, a gigolo. If you want to explore a world like that and would rather not go alone, I’m glad to think it through with you, with no obligation or through free chat.
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