Glossary
Hall pass
For anyone who has been given such a one-time yes or is thinking of giving one, and wants to know where the boundary lies then.
What is a hall pass?
A hall pass is a one-time, agreed-in-advance permission from your partner to do something sexual with someone else once. The relationship stays monogamous otherwise. It is an exception and not a new way of living: after that one time the door closes again. The term is English and comes from American schooling.
| Origin | English; literally a corridor pass from American schooling, made widely known by the comedy Hall Pass (2011) |
| Also known as | one-time free pass, permission for once |
| Category | a light, temporary exception to monogamy, at the edge of swinging |
| Not to be confused with | an open relationship, in which arrangements outside the door may run on rather than being one-time |
| Core | once, with agreements in advance, then closed again |
How a hall pass works
It stands or falls with the agreement in advance. Wiktionary describes a hall pass as an arrangement to relax monogamy temporarily or under conditions. In practice couples set down what may and may not happen: with whom, whether it stays at one time, whether anything is reported back, and what is shared afterward. The 2011 film Hall Pass made the word known, with two men who get a week from their wives in which their marriage does not count for a while. That is the caricature. In real life it is usually smaller and more precisely bounded than a whole week without rules.
Why couples agree to this
For some couples a hall pass is a way to give a wish room without throwing the whole relationship open at once. It keeps a fantasy manageable. There is one yes in it, with a clear end to it, and that feels safer than a door left permanently open. What it does not solve: if one gives it out of fear of losing the other, that one evening changes nothing about that. A hall pass only works if both really want it, not if it is a test or a bandage.
Where this fits on my site
Maybe you have been given such a one-time yes and want to spend it on a date that goes safely and discreetly, without a messy aftermath. That is exactly what I am good at as a gigolo: a bounded evening, with clear agreements in advance. How that goes is set out at my services. If you are still in doubt, feel free to ask first.
Sources
- hall pass. Wiktionary. Provides the informal meaning: an arrangement to relax monogamy in a relationship temporarily or under conditions.
- Hall Pass (2011). Wikipedia. Provides the origin of the wide recognition: the film in which two wives give their husbands a temporary free pass.
Related terms
A hall pass is a brief exception, at the side of the broader world of swinging and the open relationship forms.
- Swinging. The broader world of sex with others within a relationship, of which a hall pass is a tiny, one-time corner.
- Monogamy. The agreement a hall pass makes an exception to once.
- Ethical non-monogamy. The ongoing variants, where arrangements do not close again after one time.
Frequently asked questions
What people still ask about a hall pass.
What is a hall pass?
A hall pass is a one-time, agreed-in-advance permission from your partner to do something sexual with someone else once. After that the relationship is simply monogamous again. It is an exception with a clear end, not an ongoing arrangement.
Is a hall pass the same as an open relationship?
No. A hall pass applies once and then closes again. In an open relationship, arrangements outside the door may run on, within fixed rules. So a hall pass is a one-time exception to monogamy, not a new way of living.
Who can you turn to with questions about a hall pass?
To Victor, a gigolo with about twenty-five years of experience in BDSM and a background as a psychotherapist. A one-time, well-agreed date that goes safely and discreetly is exactly what he does. You can ask him something through the contact form or first chat for free.
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