Before you send anything
Questions about getting in touch
How the first contact works and what you can expect.
How do you contact a gigolo? The first step is usually the scariest one, and it really doesn’t have to be complicated. You can text me, email me, or call, even without Instagram or Snapchat, and I answer within a day in most cases. The questions women ask me about that first message are gathered here. Every way to reach me is on the contact page.
Does first contact go through email, WhatsApp, or phone?
All three, and you choose. Email is the most anonymous and gives you time to find your words. WhatsApp is quicker, and you can use a second number for it. A phone call often says the most, because you hear right away who you’re dealing with. I usually answer within a few hours.
How do I book without Snapchat or Instagram? Can I just use email?
Yes, by email or through the contact form, and for many women that’s the safest route of all. You don’t have to create an account, nothing sits in an app your partner also uses, and you can use an email address that serves no other purpose.
Do you also speak English, German, or French?
Besides Dutch, I speak fluent English and German, enough to carry a whole date in that language. I don’t speak French, so for that we’ll stick to one of the other three. Reach out in whatever language feels most comfortable to you.
How quickly do I get an answer?
Usually within a few hours. With someone who works alone there’s no customer service line. There’s one phone, and I answer it myself. That’s normally faster than an agency, because no one sits in between who first has to check in or call you back.
Where can I turn if something goes wrong?
Right away and free of charge: the Centrum Seksueel Geweld (the Dutch Sexual Assault Center) on 0800-0188, reachable day and night, also for cases you’re unsure about and even years later. For police when there’s no immediate danger: 0900-8844. If you suspect coercion or exploitation, there’s Meld Misdaad Anoniem (Report Crime Anonymously) on 0800-7000. Not sure whether it’s “bad enough” to call? That’s exactly what those numbers are for.