Gigolo arrangements

Frequently asked questions

Answers to the questions I hear most.

1. How far in advance should I plan an arrangement?

   Plan on a lead time of two to three months. I take only a few multi-day arrangements a year, so the sooner you get in touch, the more room there is.

   That lead time isn’t waiting, by the way. It’s part of the booking. In those months we talk through what you want, where you want to go, and what definitely won’t happen. For one evening that fits in a single conversation; for a week it’s nowhere near enough.

   Have a specific date in mind? Let me know early. A single evening can sometimes happen within a week; an arrangement almost never.

2. Do I get to see you before I commit to anything?

   Yes. During our chat you get a photo, and after that we video call, so you really see me move and talk and we both feel whether there’s a click.

   Only once every agreement is in place and it feels right for both of us is there a booking. Never sooner, and certainly not on photos alone: those say little about what someone is like, and that’s exactly what matters with a multi-day arrangement.

   For an arrangement I’d even suggest meeting once in person first. A coffee date is enough, and it costs you nothing. If it still doesn’t feel right after that, you simply don’t do it.

3. What language can we speak together?

   Dutch, German and English. Feel free to reach out in whichever language you’re most comfortable in; you don’t have to switch because you think it’s easier for me.

   For an arrangement that’s more practical than it sounds. One evening you can get through in a second language, but over consecutive days you notice you say different things in your own language, and those are exactly the things you bring someone along for.

   If you’d rather speak a language other than these three, let me know. Sometimes there’s a solution, and otherwise I’ll just tell you. I switch effortlessly, even mid-conversation.

4. Will I be picked up when I arrive?

   Yes. If you come by plane or train, I’m there the moment you arrive. You don’t have to figure anything out yourself or stand on an unfamiliar platform with a suitcase wondering what to do next.

   That first moment does more than you’d think. Arriving is exactly the point where the nerves run highest, and seeing someone you recognize takes most of that away.

   If you’d rather arrive separately and meet at the room, that works too. Some women find it more discreet, and that’s a fine choice. Let me know your arrival time in advance, and there’s nothing left for you to arrange on the way.

5. What about safety and health during an arrangement?

   I get tested every six months and we always use a condom.

   Well before you arrive we calmly settle what you do and don’t want and how we keep it safe together. We put that down in the consent form, and you can adjust it during the days. With an arrangement that’s the rule more than the exception, because you can’t know in advance how day three will feel.

   And you can stop at any time, even halfway through a trip. That’s a conversation about the costs already made, nothing more.

6. What happens when the days together are over?

   It doesn’t stop abruptly. Days this intense can stir up a lot, and that wants somewhere to go once you’re home again. I stay available for your questions and for anything you want to talk through afterward, and if you need it we’ll have another call once it’s over.

   That aftercare matters to me as much as the days themselves. As a psychotherapist I know how important it is to let an experience land: looking back calmly, giving the emotions that came up a place, and taking with you what you discovered about yourself.

   That way it doesn’t stay something from that one weekend. You’re never left to handle it alone afterward.

7. Can I take you along on a trip, a weekend away or abroad?

   Yes. A weekend away, a city trip or a multi-day journey at home or abroad is easy to arrange.

   Multi-day arrangements start at € 5,000 and are limited, so reserve well ahead so I can really keep the days free. For a trip abroad I set one price with everything in it: flight, lodging, travel time. No items that surface later.

   One thing to know in advance: for bookings like these I do ask for a deposit, because tickets and accommodation are already in my name by then. You get those amounts itemized. Just ask, and I’ll work it out and show you a single amount.

8. Can I book a whole weekend or a whole week?

   Yes. A weekend is € 7,500 and a week € 20,000; anything in between I tune to what you’re after rather than pushing you into a package.

   At those lengths something shifts in how it goes. An evening is an event; a week is living together, with breakfasts, an afternoon when nobody feels like doing anything and a conversation that runs on for three days. For many women that’s the unexpected part.

   Plan it well ahead. Multi-day bookings are limited, simply because only a few a year fit in a calendar. If you’re thinking about it, start with a conversation rather than a date.

9. Do you offer special arrangements or packages?

   Yes, both. You choose a package by how much time you want together, from an evening to a whole day. Want longer? There’s the all-inclusive arrangement: a weekend, a week, or a trip together.

   The packages run from Basic, two hours, up to a Full day from morning to morning. Extended and an Overnight sit in between. For each one, Pricing shows exactly what’s included, and the rate follows the length. What we do together doesn’t change the price.

   An arrangement is more than loose hours strung together. Hotel, dinner and travel are in it, I book and arrange everything, and you get one amount up front with nothing added later. Not sure which form suits you? That’s exactly what the intake conversation is for.